"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Can anyone give me a little one on one coaching?

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I have a favor to ask of you DJs. I recently typed out a little nine paragraph summary of where I'm at with a girl right now. I kind of did it to get everything down on paper, and to vent a little. It's basically just a detailed FR of our last date, and I want to know what I did well and how I can fix the mistakes I made. I don't want to bore the casual reader with it, but if any of you experiecened Don Juans want to check it out and give me some feedback, it would be greatly appreciated.

Please send me a private message if you're interested in taking on my situation and offering a little one-on-one advice. It shouldn't take too long, but it might be alot to swallow for the average dude searching here and looking for something quick. However, if you have a minute and are good at offering some positive advice, shoot me a PM or reply here.

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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You do realize if she was really into you, you wouldn't have time for that kinda sh!t.
 
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Eh, fair enough. We're both at different schools now, so the exposure level just isn't there. It's not a bunch of emo whining, it's basically a detailed FR of a date we went on, and I'm just wondering how I did. That's how the FRs are on some other forums, really long and detailed.
 
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post it here. change the names. get feedback. filtre out the crap. just post it man. people learn from your FRs as much as you learn from other people.

PEACE! GL withthe girl. if it doesn't work out, don't sweat it and get a hobby. Here I am, 8 yrs in the future from when I joined or whatever and I still have a lingering one-itis for some girl i used to like.

However, I don't let it interefere with my life. Once in a while I think, "wow I really kind of want to be with her." but then I go back to whatever I was doing and forget about it for a few days. I think it'll always be there, but thing is not to lete it put your life on hold. ie. I'm pretty much kicking ass at whatever I do in life recently (last 2 yrs), but am I perfect? no. relax.

I don't believe in God, but if thre was a god he gave us all 1 thing: TIME

He gave us a bag of equal time and we decide what we want to do with it. Want to go on a date? Read a book? Write 9 paragraphs about a girl? Help others? All your call.
 
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alright more like 3 yrs...not 8 yrs haha
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Potbelly said:
I don't believe in God, but if thre was a god he gave us all 1 thing: TIME

He gave us a bag of equal time and we decide what we want to do with it. Want to go on a date? Read a book? Write 9 paragraphs about a girl? Help others? All your call.
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That's a nice philosophy there! For what it's worth, the FR took me no more 10 minutes to write. I'm real good at writing and expressing emotion so it was easy and quick for me. I just sat down, wrote down some things and that was it. It was a therapeutic.

Anyway, send me a PM if anyone wants to see it.
 
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