You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Under 20% would be acceptable. Sometimes even though it's bs it raises the emotions and motivation. If it's overdone of course it feels like a lead weight.If you want to settle down, and you have found the woman that meets your criteria - that is good for you.
My objection was to the 0% b1tchy stuff. Which is obvious nonsense.
Neil isn't 0% b1tchy, for fvck sake
None of us are.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Ha!It's also based on context.
Take a high-interest girl who behaves herself, and is great to be around.
Then deny her exclusivity.
See how b1tchy she is then
With the way things are, we have no choice but to keep them on their toes. Remain attractive to the market. And ensure our needs are always met. Or else they will cuck us against a guy who wouldn't put up with her $hit, and he wouldn't lift a finger to help her...
Bingo bango. We learn about people by putting them in uncomfortable situations or ones that force them to work, or fight...Well, all I'm saying is that I had high-interest women this year. And instead of singing their praises for being "0% b1tchy", I strung things out by spinning plates. Saw some interesting things.
You can consider that my sh*t-test. These women began to over-invest and make mistakes (much like I did when I was blue-pill
One girl started to show me her orbiters (trying to make me jealous). I was shocked by how many there actually were. Then I found out that she had lesbian sex whilst we first started seeing each other (she was trying to sell me on the idea of a threesome - I think). I hate lesbians, so that didn't work. Wouldn't have found out those things, if I'd have just accepted her relationship frame. Or maybe I'd have found out a year down the line.
Another girl had a lawyer chode hanging about. She encouraged him more, the longer I wouldn't commit. Ended up sexting her one night whilst she went out with him. That makes me paranoid now about girls being on their phones during a date
You learn more by dragging women into deeper waters, than by just jumping in to a relationship and declaring her a unicorn.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I'm sold.