Can a long distance relationship work ?

[Prodoge]

I just got home from a semester studying abroad where I met this girl about 2 months ago. After the first date we hit off immediately and kept seing each other. Right now I am going home from her place (400km away, 4hours 30min by car) where I stayed for a week.

I have really started to like her, I can tell the way she looks at me that she fell for me. I am also the first guy that got her to orgasm. But I can see the distance beeing a huge pain in futur.

We already made plans to see each other in about 4 weeks, after that however I have no idea. I told her let's not look too far ahead and see what happens after summer. Actually I have no plan whatsoever what will happen because in september I start uni again and then I will barely have time to see her.

 

[Roober]

A long distance plate is perfect! She wont know what your up to. =)

 

[Billtx49]

She will eventually use her time away from you to seek the attention of other men and you won’t be in the same location to even get a clue it’s happening. She isn’t a Nun.

 

[Murk]

Never bothered to try, never will.

 

[Glassguy]

Can a LDR work?

Nope. Any more questions?

 

[NSX-R]

Big no . Did it myself , my buddy also had 2 ldr . It's not worth it . Enjoy the puss you find around you .

 

[Trump]

I have really started to like her, I can tell the way she looks at me that she fell for me. I am also the first guy that got her to orgasm. But I can see the distance beeing a huge pain in futur.

Believing everything she tells you is a huge pain in the future too.

We already made plans to see each other in about 4 weeks, after that however I have no idea. I told her let's not look too far ahead and see what happens after summer. Actually I have no plan whatsoever what will happen because in september I start uni again and then I will barely have time to see her.

Just throw her a bone so she remains interested while you flirt with girls who are 30 min away by car. Don’t put all your eggs in her basket.

 

[Spaz]

Nope.

 

[marmel75]

Wont work...no matter how lovey dovey she acts now, one day after not seeing you for a while she will wake up and realize that things arent going to work and will start acting cold and distant. Could be after she bangs another guy, could be before...but know that its only a matter of time before she does so.

 

[Serenity]

It can work.... If you have a really really low sex drive, don't mind not seeing her frequently and she is the same way.

I don't know about you, but I know I'd go crazy in a long distance relationship. My desire to physically be with the girl I love is too strong to be apart so much, it would be torture.

You'd have to be a special type of guy finding a special type of girl for that to work. If you're a very sexual person you can pretty much forget about this idea. Mostly it won't work, humans aren't wired to be in relationships without lots of physical intimacy.

 

[Glassguy]

Keep it mind it works great for her, she gets attention without sacrificing anything at all.

Very true.

If you are spinning plates and have several other options then I would say dont burn the bridge. When she comes into your area you can always meet up.

But I wouldnt be putting any eggs in her basket.

 

[MrWood]

OP: I have had 2x4yr LDR, with some success,, ,and without.
mine however were Russia vs Finland
and if you go more than 5 weeks not seeing each other.. .she will fvck someone else (i did my best to average 3-4 weeks between trips)

 

[lizardking82]

Nope. Get off the dream train.