"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Calling the first # from tuesday

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Calling the first # from tuesday - help

So I'm about to call the girl on the left from my fat tuesday picture, but I'm not certain how/what I want to do.

Any advice?

I wanted to call tonight around 4-5pm when I'm wrapping up work and perhaps tell her I'm about to leave work in an hour or so and was going to be stopping by starbucks on my way home... and if she liked she could join me.

What other suggestions does anyone have? I don't want to call on fri/sat (don't want to look desperate) but then again if I wait I'm looking at sunday which is the day before valentines (also would look desperate) I can't call on v-day, so I'm looking at next tuesday which I think will make her a cold fish by that time

Bah, kinda confused on an approach, it may be ok to call and ask her if she wants to go dancing where we met and already have danced... but that doesn't really give me the one on one time if she brings a friend or the other things that could come up...

What do you think?
 
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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hm... sounds good

but instead of saying "would you like to join me"

be more like "hey i'm gonna grab a drink and relax at starbucks... come meet me and we'll kick back together and have a little fun and talk"

blah blah blah

be the bright spot of her day

don't ask her to come dancing with you
get to know her first, and then she'll ask YOU
 

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How drunk was she when you met her?

I never like to call people that I meet in bars, especially on an occasion such as Fat Tuesday; reason being I don't like it when girls call me that I met in a bar because most of the time I barely remember what they like look or what their personality is like. I think I'm just sick of being around drunk people. :)
 

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i've decided i'm going to call her tomorrow and set up going out to starbucks. I got busy tonight and I'm not going to have time to go tonight so tomorrow is better.

Since it will be friday I'm going to aim for early (6:30-7:30ish) and hopefully get her to ask me to go with her and some friends to a club, I'll likely say no and tell her I have plans and that she could try and call and see if I can get out of them later on.

:D
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Let us know how it goes.

You mentioned in a post that you are from Portland Oregon? I live in Corvallis and am moving up to portland in a couple weeks for school. I was wondering how the scene is around there? I can't stand most of the girls around here (greek types) so I'm hoping the change will be nice.

Anyway, GL on this one.
 
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