"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Calling the first # from tuesday

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Calling the first # from tuesday - help

So I'm about to call the girl on the left from my fat tuesday picture, but I'm not certain how/what I want to do.

Any advice?

I wanted to call tonight around 4-5pm when I'm wrapping up work and perhaps tell her I'm about to leave work in an hour or so and was going to be stopping by starbucks on my way home... and if she liked she could join me.

What other suggestions does anyone have? I don't want to call on fri/sat (don't want to look desperate) but then again if I wait I'm looking at sunday which is the day before valentines (also would look desperate) I can't call on v-day, so I'm looking at next tuesday which I think will make her a cold fish by that time

Bah, kinda confused on an approach, it may be ok to call and ask her if she wants to go dancing where we met and already have danced... but that doesn't really give me the one on one time if she brings a friend or the other things that could come up...

What do you think?
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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hm... sounds good

but instead of saying "would you like to join me"

be more like "hey i'm gonna grab a drink and relax at starbucks... come meet me and we'll kick back together and have a little fun and talk"

blah blah blah

be the bright spot of her day

don't ask her to come dancing with you
get to know her first, and then she'll ask YOU
 

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How drunk was she when you met her?

I never like to call people that I meet in bars, especially on an occasion such as Fat Tuesday; reason being I don't like it when girls call me that I met in a bar because most of the time I barely remember what they like look or what their personality is like. I think I'm just sick of being around drunk people. :)
 

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i've decided i'm going to call her tomorrow and set up going out to starbucks. I got busy tonight and I'm not going to have time to go tonight so tomorrow is better.

Since it will be friday I'm going to aim for early (6:30-7:30ish) and hopefully get her to ask me to go with her and some friends to a club, I'll likely say no and tell her I have plans and that she could try and call and see if I can get out of them later on.

:D
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Let us know how it goes.

You mentioned in a post that you are from Portland Oregon? I live in Corvallis and am moving up to portland in a couple weeks for school. I was wondering how the scene is around there? I can't stand most of the girls around here (greek types) so I'm hoping the change will be nice.

Anyway, GL on this one.
 
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