"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Calling me stupid...

[]D [] []V[] []D

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Well i am in highschool so i have to say i am a bit immature. Im actually quite the joker, and i lay on the ****y hard sometimes...

Anyways, people always call me stupid...i joined this organization called cadets and im an NCO (in a position of authority) and when i talk to other NCO's (in gr 10, 11) they always call me stupid.

Here's an example:
[Some girl got some bandanas to bring onto a weekend activity to give to her group of cadets to wear and each was only $1]

Me: "Are you sure those arent eating napkins"

Her: [Smile] "Your so stupid"

Well one of my best guy friends has been calling me that cuz i have a wild imagination (not perv), so other ppl start calling me that and i notice funny things around my surrounding so sometimes i really funny so he calls me stupid cuz the thing thats funny is so stupid that it makes him laugh. (Example as shown above).

--> Would you guys say that im saying my funny quotes in a bad way (should i change it to a comment instead of a question)

---> I should stop making funny comments that are considered "stupid"

P.S. I nvr really talk to this girl and that was the first time i actually made her smile.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by []D [] []V[] []D
Well i am in highschool so i have to say i am a bit immature. Im actually quite the joker, and i lay on the ****y hard sometimes...

Anyways, people always call me stupid...i joined this organization called cadets and im an NCO (in a position of authority) and when i talk to other NCO's (in gr 10, 11) they always call me stupid.

Here's an example:
[Some girl got some bandanas to bring onto a weekend activity to give to her group of cadets to wear and each was only $1]

Me: "Are you sure those arent eating napkins"

Her: [Smile] "Your so stupid"

Well one of my best guy friends has been calling me that cuz i have a wild imagination (not perv), so other ppl start calling me that and i notice funny things around my surrounding so sometimes i really funny so he calls me stupid cuz the thing thats funny is so stupid that it makes him laugh. (Example as shown above).

--> Would you guys say that im saying my funny quotes in a bad way (should i change it to a comment instead of a question)

---> I should stop making funny comments that are considered "stupid"

P.S. I nvr really talk to this girl and that was the first time i actually made her smile.
Your over reacting. "Your so stupid," is not to be taken seriously.
If she seriously considered you to be stupid, she would act differently.
 

Joe The Homophobe

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Using C&F helps a guy seem confident an attractive to girls. What you're doing has built you up the wrong reputation, people think of you as a clown rather than ****y & funny. Maybe you should lay off from some of the Funny and just use the ****y attitude mostly, and hopefully you repair your image.
 

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If it's a girl calling you stupid, respond with "I know, but at least I'm good looking." If it's a guy, punch him in the stomach.
 

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make jokes, but just don't be such a goof about it. be cool and calm, and its best not to laugh at your own jokes too much
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by Axe
If it's a girl calling you stupid, respond with "I know, but at least I'm good looking." If it's a guy, punch him in the stomach.
hahah i like the at least im good looking responce.
 

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I disagree with the punching in the stomach response.

THAT will make you look "stupid," and insecure. Look around you, the times have changed; so has the notion of fighting.
 

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hey axe i jus realized.... whenyou say "i might be stupid but at least im good looking" are you implying that the girl is ugly?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by Nexxus
i dont know one man who wouldn't throw a punch back for being punched anywhere without warning...
Okay?













Then you do not know any MEN.
 
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