"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Calling all the 'Men' for a Mentality test

ducaro

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You have a good gf worthy of all the respect. you love her a lot and have invested great emotional value in her. all of a sudden, she likes another guys and cheats (all the way) on you! (lets face it anybody can be in this situation)

what would would do?

1. dump your chick
2. fight with the other guy for her

cheerio!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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synergy1

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investing time and energy into a girl is as valid as investing money in anything. A girl who has cheated on you in one way or another is a sunk cost, and spending any more emotional time thinking or doing anything in that department would be the worst thing you can do.

I would not even talk to her again, and just end it. Sooner you end it, the sooner you can move on and get another girl.
 
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Get myself either a playmate or FHM model with personality, better job and get richer, workout harder so I look better and then cut of ALL CONTACTS with my X. So the next time she sees me with my model GF and I see her with lozer, she'll realize how foolish she was and cut herself. Moving on and improving your life is the BEST comeback to anyone.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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stinkyape

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You said a girlfriend worthy of all respect........ Who cheats?

Cheating instantly removes all worthyness for respect, so flawed question. I wouldn't tolerate that **** - I'd tell her to fvck off and not regret it for a second. And then I'd probably go beat her new man up, just for sh1ts and giggles :)
 

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Even if someone has behaved in a manner that is deserving of respect...the second they cheat they have violated your trust and betrayed you...and are no longer deserving of your respect because they clearly aren't showing you that same respect.

You NEVER respect your partner MORE than you respect yourself...that is rule #1 in any relationship.

You end the relationship, period.

Once you end the relationship you do a thorough inventory on your own relationship shortcomings and identify the mistakes you have made, hold yourself accountable for those mistakes and learn from them so you don't repeat them. Once you've done that you can look towards moving on.
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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stinkyape said:
You said a girlfriend worthy of all respect........ Who cheats?
Yes, 1+1=3... :rolleyes:
 
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