"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Calling a girl by her name via text.

pvf94

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For example... first text...

"Hey ashley :)"

Is this alright to do? I know its music to my ears when somebody says my name or texts it. even "Nick :D" or something similar.

Whats your take?
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Sounds like you're over-analyzing something that will have no effect on whether you do or don't get with this girl.
 

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Yea dude eliminate your "giving a fvck" and just say what you think is right. Although I have thought about this before as well now I would probably use nicknames for her that I make up it gets a better reaction since I'm not taking her seriously at all.

ps. Nick? :D
 

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Simple question my man. Figured it be a tid bit of spice to the usual "hey/whatsup/hi/yo"

Thank's for your help though.
 

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This applies to girls I have just meet recently/don't have a nickname for.

you said my name!

*wags tail*

haha
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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just call her bro
 

pvf94

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That's not the issue! haha, I don't have a real issue with getting dates and all....usually starts off with a text either way. I do my calling to set up a day and time. text for a quick flirt.
 

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same as sales... say their name. better than not, but that doesnt mean it has a big impact.
 

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Oh my god didn't you know? Saying their name in the first text message is 'the magic pill'.
 

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damn I ask for a little input and get a little d!ck up my ass from everyone lol. thanks sosuave it felt good ;)

I'm not retarded I do realize its not that big of a deal if any but it was a thought that crossed my mind why not ask?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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i think it sounds better if you call her miss ashley or mrs ashley. It really depends on her status.
 

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Someone on here shared the knowledge that calling some1 by their name has a magic captivating effect, which is used in sales and business etc. Props to whoever came up with this.

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Give her a nickname. Its great. Ashley is a great name to make nicknames. Ashbear, ash, ash-hole, ashbang, flashbang, etc.
 
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