"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Calling a girl by her name via text.

pvf94

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For example... first text...

"Hey ashley :)"

Is this alright to do? I know its music to my ears when somebody says my name or texts it. even "Nick :D" or something similar.

Whats your take?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Sounds like you're over-analyzing something that will have no effect on whether you do or don't get with this girl.
 

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Yea dude eliminate your "giving a fvck" and just say what you think is right. Although I have thought about this before as well now I would probably use nicknames for her that I make up it gets a better reaction since I'm not taking her seriously at all.

ps. Nick? :D
 

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Simple question my man. Figured it be a tid bit of spice to the usual "hey/whatsup/hi/yo"

Thank's for your help though.
 

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This applies to girls I have just meet recently/don't have a nickname for.

you said my name!

*wags tail*

haha
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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hydroheathen

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just call her bro
 

pvf94

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That's not the issue! haha, I don't have a real issue with getting dates and all....usually starts off with a text either way. I do my calling to set up a day and time. text for a quick flirt.
 

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same as sales... say their name. better than not, but that doesnt mean it has a big impact.
 

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Oh my god didn't you know? Saying their name in the first text message is 'the magic pill'.
 

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damn I ask for a little input and get a little d!ck up my ass from everyone lol. thanks sosuave it felt good ;)

I'm not retarded I do realize its not that big of a deal if any but it was a thought that crossed my mind why not ask?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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i think it sounds better if you call her miss ashley or mrs ashley. It really depends on her status.
 

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Someone on here shared the knowledge that calling some1 by their name has a magic captivating effect, which is used in sales and business etc. Props to whoever came up with this.

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Give her a nickname. Its great. Ashley is a great name to make nicknames. Ashbear, ash, ash-hole, ashbang, flashbang, etc.
 
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