Going paintballing next saturday. I invited this girl to go and she got all excited and invited like 4 of her friends to go with my buddies, on friday i couldnt find her to get her # so i got it from my friend, i dont wanna call or text her with her being like wtf? how does he have my number? she even told me to call her but i didnt have her # and i didnt wanna ask infront of her BF..so, waht should i say?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Call/text, dont wanna be creepy
- Thread starter HandyAndy
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
Depends on what the rapport is. If you're both friendly (which I'm assuming you are) then there's nothing wrong with calling her. just say "hey, I didn't have your # so I grabbed it from ______ ". That's it. No big deal.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Yeah, I agree. As long as you know her fairly well, then it would be fine to call her, but why not make some use out of it. Bust on her for avoiding you, since you obviously make her nervous with your amazing charm. lol.
MacAvoy
Banned
If she's inviting 4 of her friends, I wouldn't have any hesitation about taking the liberty of calling her. When a man goes and gets a women's number, it shows that he is a man and isn't afraid of taking control like an AFC would.
ARrocket said:
lmao, thanks guys ill call her after i get all the info from another friend. And i actually dont know her that well, i talked to her once because i was talking to another friend of mine and I asked her if she was down to paintball, which is when we starting talking a bit. There is none to very little rapport between us.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
if you guys are going with friends paintballing then there's no harm in calling to say hey. You're making the plans so it shows your into havin some fun. A good quality
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
HandyAndy said:
hmm....no rapport? idk then...if paintball isn't until next weekend anyway, I'd wait. But that's just me. I think you should find her tomorrow, flirt with her a bit, then bring up the issue and get the number.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Spring break already? You lucky bastard 
Is it possible to call her friend whose number you have and ask her to deliver any messages you have for her?
Is it possible to call her friend whose number you have and ask her to deliver any messages you have for her?
Who you mean the guy I got the number from? Im really good friends with him, but I can do it myself I just dont want her to be freaked out or anythingARrocket said:Spring break already? You lucky bastard
Is it possible to call her friend whose number you have and ask her to deliver any messages you have for her?
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
yeah I'm saying just tell your friend to give her the details about where you guys are going to meet, what time etc. That way you don't need to call her and worry about being creepy. Then, while you're out with her and everybody else, you can flirt with her and get her number.