Going paintballing next saturday. I invited this girl to go and she got all excited and invited like 4 of her friends to go with my buddies, on friday i couldnt find her to get her # so i got it from my friend, i dont wanna call or text her with her being like wtf? how does he have my number? she even told me to call her but i didnt have her # and i didnt wanna ask infront of her BF..so, waht should i say?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Call/text, dont wanna be creepy
- Thread starter HandyAndy
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
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Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
Depends on what the rapport is. If you're both friendly (which I'm assuming you are) then there's nothing wrong with calling her. just say "hey, I didn't have your # so I grabbed it from ______ ". That's it. No big deal.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Yeah, I agree. As long as you know her fairly well, then it would be fine to call her, but why not make some use out of it. Bust on her for avoiding you, since you obviously make her nervous with your amazing charm. lol.
MacAvoy
Banned
If she's inviting 4 of her friends, I wouldn't have any hesitation about taking the liberty of calling her. When a man goes and gets a women's number, it shows that he is a man and isn't afraid of taking control like an AFC would.
ARrocket said:
lmao, thanks guys ill call her after i get all the info from another friend. And i actually dont know her that well, i talked to her once because i was talking to another friend of mine and I asked her if she was down to paintball, which is when we starting talking a bit. There is none to very little rapport between us.
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
The Bad Ass Canadian
Master Don Juan
if you guys are going with friends paintballing then there's no harm in calling to say hey. You're making the plans so it shows your into havin some fun. A good quality
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
HandyAndy said:
hmm....no rapport? idk then...if paintball isn't until next weekend anyway, I'd wait. But that's just me. I think you should find her tomorrow, flirt with her a bit, then bring up the issue and get the number.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Spring break already? You lucky bastard 
Is it possible to call her friend whose number you have and ask her to deliver any messages you have for her?
Is it possible to call her friend whose number you have and ask her to deliver any messages you have for her?
Who you mean the guy I got the number from? Im really good friends with him, but I can do it myself I just dont want her to be freaked out or anythingARrocket said:Spring break already? You lucky bastard
Is it possible to call her friend whose number you have and ask her to deliver any messages you have for her?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
yeah I'm saying just tell your friend to give her the details about where you guys are going to meet, what time etc. That way you don't need to call her and worry about being creepy. Then, while you're out with her and everybody else, you can flirt with her and get her number.