"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Call or text after getting # on cold approach?
- Thread starter tihash
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You want as much *personal* interaction as possible. So obviously face-to-face is best, then phone call, then text/IM
And when you call her - don't try to create a long telephone conversation with her, just call her to set up the date.
The goal is to get her to meet you in person - then you work your magic.
Colossus
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With texting you can flirt and use some witty verbal game, break the ice a bit, then call. Plus, texting is a bit more exciting. Women love to read and write.
They both work, you just have to get a feel for when to use them.
Georgepithyou
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Most younger girls these days dont like to call
Suave88
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It is best to call. Don't leave a message. If she does not pick up, come back to us. Do not double call. Best days to call Monday and Tuesday based on the antidump machine. Call to set a date no chit chat BS.
What is the age group?
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
EyeOnThePrize
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If you have to ask then just call and get it over with. Texting is easy when you don't worry about stuff like this, when you come from abundance.
You're older and more experienced, act like it. Show effortlessness.