"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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DJMaC23

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Hey, so I've gone out with this girl twice already and nothing has happened...I'm supposed to go have lunch with her in DC on saturday. Last we talked was on Sunday, and I haven't called her since then. Should I call sometime tomorrow? I guess if I did I wouldn't be really calling to "confirm" but I would say something like I'm going to be like 10 minutes late...how would you guys handle it?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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sexxyback

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you don't have to call if you're gonna be 10 mins late, she'll wait.
 

Jay Jay

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a cf line i use to great effect

i made a date with a girl who said, 'i'm totally forgetful, let me write down the time of the date.'

i was like, ''don't worry, i'll call ya on the day.''

i texted; ''reminder; lunch with really cool guy.''

she called me back immediately saying, ''so who is this cool guy'' she was so delighted i have used it a few times since then.

flakage count when i do= ZERO.

give it a go.

JJ
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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DJMaC23 said:
Hey, so I've gone out with this girl twice already and nothing has happened...I'm supposed to go have lunch with her in DC on saturday. Last we talked was on Sunday, and I haven't called her since then. Should I call sometime tomorrow? I guess if I did I wouldn't be really calling to "confirm" but I would say something like I'm going to be like 10 minutes late...how would you guys handle it?
So are you planning on being late a couple of days in advance?
 

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ammmmmmmm..... what the fck..... u guys didnt catch something really really wrong here!!!!

went out twice and nothing happend......... you should have kissed or attempted to kiss her on first date.. and for sure kissed her by 2nd...
YES DUDE... u think it might be awkward and impossible, but it only seems that way cause you believe in it...

absolutley no reason for you not to atleast get a smack on the lips by 2nd date man!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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