"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Call Back... Drunk mistake -.-

Bussey

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Alright, haven't been on here for ages... but yea, been doing great in college with the ladies. Anyways, I called this girl I met.. (Got her # on the elevator in residence 3 days ago). I called her today at 5 and she was really surprised and excited that I called, told her Its easier to talk to her in person so in a couple hours I'd come down and visit her in her room. She was going to the mall, and so I told her I was busy and she said she'd call me when she got back. Started drinking with some buddies and my roommate and his girlfriend pressured me to call her room at 11. So I called shortly before 11 and she wasn't there.

I was drunk out of my mind, now its 1 AM, she still hasn't called and I've sobered up.. Not really concerned about her calling back cuz I've met tons of girls at Rez, but should I try this girl once more in a few days, or just leave her too it? Out of all the girls I met, she was the one I clicked most with so thats why I am asking, any other girl and it would have immediately put her on the backburner.

Anyways, let me know what you guys think.

Ciao
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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TesuqueRed

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wait

you'll probably meet her in the elevator again

sober, hopefully

no excuses, no apologies, just pick up where you left off
 
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