"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
c/f for a vegetarian
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Vulpine
Master Don Juan
I guess she won't be wanting your "meat", then.
"Oh I'm a vegetarian too, we have a lot in common
well I'm not too strict of a vegetarian
sometimes I eat eggs and seafood. Chicken once in a while too. And I love a nicely done steak on occasion.
but I feel so much healthier since going vegetarian"
Desdinova
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"Hey, I bought some nice juicy steaks! Wanna come over and help me eat...... oh 5hit, you don't eat that stuff. Well, you can just come over and WATCH me eat them, how's that?
"Honestly, I could never see myself dating a vegetarian. I love meat too much.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
LowPlainsDrifter
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C&F: Every time you pass a meat store, exclaim, "ummm... that looks good." or if the two of you walk by a dog or cat: "what a cute dog/cat - looks tasty, too!"
You'd think that vegatarian women would be really pleasantly slim, but most of the ones I've known casually were rather... girthful.
Google the song lyrics "junk food junkie" by Larry Groce - clever 70s novelty song about the hypocrisy of health food nuts.
Monkey
Master Don Juan
I was a veggie for about 10 yrs and every family get together some twit would say 'ooh so you don't eat meat then' or 'so, do you live on vegetables?' *giggle* *giggle* :yawn:
Its gets very old very,very fast and you will not come across as being a funny ****y guy at all. Quite the opposite as it'll actually make her think why doesn't this prick just STFU.
diplomatic_lies
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