Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
"Sorry I have a bf"
"Oh really? Well you can bring him too!"
"Oh really? Well you can bring him too!"
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
C&F Comebacks to 'I Have a Boyfriend'
- Thread starter Krassus
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Hollowpoint
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Top!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
spectacular
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Her:I have a boyfriend...me:well,I know that's a major achievement for you,but to be sincere u don't to tell everybody u meet.I'm sure he got tired of u asking him out anyway.so if you need a friend to hang out with sometime,u can call me up,take care.
dutchmaster
Senior Don Juan
We just met, but I'm flattered you'd call me that!
Or something like that.
Or something like that.
DonGorgon
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She is mentioning her man to let you know she does not like you... if she wanted to F you she would boyfriend or no boyfriend..
izza
Master Don Juan
I find a lot of these lines sound like bull****. The women I know are sick of bull****.
I highly recommend becoming a beacon of truth in a sea of bull**** (and part of the truth is that we all want people to love us, aka we're vulnerable). Part of being a beacon of truth is being mature enough to tell women what's up.
I've had a number of women say things like this to me. Usually, I'm sincerely stunned. I might say something like "it's true I find you attractive and also I genuinely like connecting with interesting people throughout my day. I find it makes it so much more beautiful. Hey, you can let me know if I'm bothering you, ok? I wouldn't be offended."
A lot of women aren't this blunt. They'll just casually drop the boyfriend thing as soon as they can. I kind of react as if they told me that they have a really cute nephew or something. Like, hmm, sounds like it's someone who means a lot to you. That's why she's telling you - she doesn't want to betray that person, or lead you down the wrong path. Usually, this comes from a considerate place in a woman's heart. I see no reason to take it as anything but a gift, even though I do open relationships and I am deeply suspicious of many people's intentions for entering monogamous relationships.
That's my style. I'm not saying it's for everyone. I'm not even sure it would "pick up women the most efficiently" or whatever many fools on this site concern themselves with. I do know that I like relating to people this way.
I highly recommend becoming a beacon of truth in a sea of bull**** (and part of the truth is that we all want people to love us, aka we're vulnerable). Part of being a beacon of truth is being mature enough to tell women what's up.
I've had a number of women say things like this to me. Usually, I'm sincerely stunned. I might say something like "it's true I find you attractive and also I genuinely like connecting with interesting people throughout my day. I find it makes it so much more beautiful. Hey, you can let me know if I'm bothering you, ok? I wouldn't be offended."
A lot of women aren't this blunt. They'll just casually drop the boyfriend thing as soon as they can. I kind of react as if they told me that they have a really cute nephew or something. Like, hmm, sounds like it's someone who means a lot to you. That's why she's telling you - she doesn't want to betray that person, or lead you down the wrong path. Usually, this comes from a considerate place in a woman's heart. I see no reason to take it as anything but a gift, even though I do open relationships and I am deeply suspicious of many people's intentions for entering monogamous relationships.
That's my style. I'm not saying it's for everyone. I'm not even sure it would "pick up women the most efficiently" or whatever many fools on this site concern themselves with. I do know that I like relating to people this way.
nismo-4
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To solve this old ass thread:
IHAB means I don't find you attractive, so leave me alone. Stop deluding yourselfves into thinking that she actually wants to be CONVINCED into liking you. Either the attraction is there or it ain't.
AFAIC, These lines can be funny, but she still has to choose you, and rest assured that decision is always hers.
If she wanted you, she would not be taken. Even if she was taken, and she wanted to f**k you, she'd jump over Stone Mountain to get to you.
There is also a long ass thread about this in the archives.
Case closed.
IHAB means I don't find you attractive, so leave me alone. Stop deluding yourselfves into thinking that she actually wants to be CONVINCED into liking you. Either the attraction is there or it ain't.
AFAIC, These lines can be funny, but she still has to choose you, and rest assured that decision is always hers.
If she wanted you, she would not be taken. Even if she was taken, and she wanted to f**k you, she'd jump over Stone Mountain to get to you.
There is also a long ass thread about this in the archives.
Case closed.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
incognito42
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Her: I have a bf
You: that's ok I'm not the jealous type.
You: that's ok I'm not the jealous type.
Crissco
Master Don Juan
Girl: I have a boyfriend
Me: Tell me, how does it feel to be in a perfect relashionship?
Her: Well its not perfect....
Me: Doesnt mean we cant be friends right...
Pull out phone, have her put her number in...Follow up and game on
Or
Change topic and continue to game her.
Me: Tell me, how does it feel to be in a perfect relashionship?
Her: Well its not perfect....
Me: Doesnt mean we cant be friends right...
Pull out phone, have her put her number in...Follow up and game on
Or
Change topic and continue to game her.
Vice
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This and izza's posts are spot on.nismo-4 said:
If she mentions the boyfriend, she isn't interested. There is no line in the world that will change her mind, cut your losses and gracefully eject. They say they have a boyfriend even when they don't just to get rid of you.
The girl I'm dating right now always tells me funny stories of how guys try so hard to change her mind, and it's quite laughable, and it makes them look really lame. Thank her and move on. Don't be weird, because you might run into her again, and she'll think "Oh no, it's that lame guy again...".
Tryingtoimprove
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I think it's probably to douchey and wouldn't work with any women worth your time anyways(like all the others here.):
That's nice but do you have a manfriend?
It's kind of odd isn't it that we call all non-spousal partners boyfriend or girlfriend way past the age most women would probably get offended if you called them a girl?
That's nice but do you have a manfriend?
It's kind of odd isn't it that we call all non-spousal partners boyfriend or girlfriend way past the age most women would probably get offended if you called them a girl?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Ignorant DJ: *Tries to flirt with a girl*
Girl: I have a boyfriend.
Ignorant DJ: *Says a lame comeback*
Girl: Speaking of my boyfriend, here he comes. Hey Jason!
Boyfriend who is actually a DJ: Do we have a problem here?
And he proceeds to clobber in your skull.
Basically, when a woman says she has a boyfriend, tell her it was a pleasure to meet her, and move on to a single woman. Don't be so naive sheesh.
Cases where the girl actually has intention of wanting you to stick around after she says that is rare.
Girl: I have a boyfriend.
Ignorant DJ: *Says a lame comeback*
Girl: Speaking of my boyfriend, here he comes. Hey Jason!
Boyfriend who is actually a DJ: Do we have a problem here?
And he proceeds to clobber in your skull.
Basically, when a woman says she has a boyfriend, tell her it was a pleasure to meet her, and move on to a single woman. Don't be so naive sheesh.
Cases where the girl actually has intention of wanting you to stick around after she says that is rare.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.