my girlfriend's parents was really mad at me because she told her mother that I'm fooling around and for being unfaithful. Can you give me some advice on how to deal with this? And I want to give her mother a present for her b-day and i want to earn points here, can u give me some tips in buying a gift for her parent?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
can u give me some tips in buying a gift for her parent?
Don't. It's transparent and ineffective.
The only reason they don't like you is that they think you make their daughter unhappy. If you want them to like you, then make their daughter happy. That is the best gift that you can give them.
Don't. It's transparent and ineffective.
The only reason they don't like you is that they think you make their daughter unhappy. If you want them to like you, then make their daughter happy. That is the best gift that you can give them.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
What does her parents have to do with the problem?
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He is just trying to be a GOOD son-in-law. That's all. Please don't do it. You'd probably make your girlfriend jealouse by buying gift for her mother. You never know what women think. You are better off buying giving the gift to your girlfriend.Francisco d'Anconia said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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The best gift you can give is the gift of great sex.djneo said:
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I think his GF telling her folks that he's fooling around negates that.amoka said: