"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Butterfly problems

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Hmmmm I'll start from the begining from this summer... I started doing some exercises, soon i was able to start sarging went to all the parties in the neiborhood and really started becoming more and more DJ-material... I wanted to make this summer preparation for next schoolyear, cause i start college now, a new start for me... First month I trained "approach", second month was relationship training... So I dated some girls and finally had a GF(kissed closed her the day i met her soooo went really went well, felt like we really did connect)

Now for some reason this butterfly feeling is really bothering me, well actually only when I'm away from her... I'm thinking about her almost all the time :confused:. Maybe im scared of losing her or something, anybody know what i should do to lose this worrying feeling cause its really a pain in the *ss though i don't wanna break up with her, so that wouldnt be the solution :whistle:.

Second problem, when college starts I'll prolly see her 2 times every week, hmmmm and I don't wanna cheat on her, i rather brake up. Should this be a reason to break up (when colleged stared ;))?

Cheers for reading the post :D any response is welcome :up:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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4th said:
Maybe im scared of losing her or something, anybody know what i should do to lose this worrying feeling cause its really a pain in the *ss though i don't wanna break up with her, so that wouldnt be the solution
Yes you are scared of losing her and that is why you should have played the field and dated several girls instead of settling for just one. If you had 3-4 women on a rotation basis you wouldn't be worried about losing one of the girls. You settled for her even when you knew you wanted and needed to explore the dating scenes with other girls.

4th said:
Second problem, when college starts I'll prolly see her 2 times every week, hmmmm and I don't wanna cheat on her, i rather brake up. Should this be a reason to break up
2 times a week is the ideal relationship for any guy. If you already have a problem with the thought that this is too little then maybe you should break up with her and become free to sarge on your college campus.
 

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hmm ok but what about if im on a date with one of the girls and one other sees me with her making out or something? :up: Anyway I'll repair the damage made so far don't worry mates ;)
 

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hmm ok but what about if im on a date with one of the girls and one other sees me with her making out or something?
Well when you are "dating" it means you are not exclusive and you as what they call in baseball "A FREE AGENT" that is where you are able to court whomever you want until you decide to sign a contract.

The odds of one girl sees you with another is relatively small unless you frequent the same spot again and again. What I usually do to avoid this, is that I don't make up with the girls when I am in a certain public establishment but isolate her somewhere outside in a dark place, car, or someone's house. This way when I am out in public with a girl, one can never tell what sort of a relationship we are in.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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