"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Butterfly problems

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Hmmmm I'll start from the begining from this summer... I started doing some exercises, soon i was able to start sarging went to all the parties in the neiborhood and really started becoming more and more DJ-material... I wanted to make this summer preparation for next schoolyear, cause i start college now, a new start for me... First month I trained "approach", second month was relationship training... So I dated some girls and finally had a GF(kissed closed her the day i met her soooo went really went well, felt like we really did connect)

Now for some reason this butterfly feeling is really bothering me, well actually only when I'm away from her... I'm thinking about her almost all the time :confused:. Maybe im scared of losing her or something, anybody know what i should do to lose this worrying feeling cause its really a pain in the *ss though i don't wanna break up with her, so that wouldnt be the solution :whistle:.

Second problem, when college starts I'll prolly see her 2 times every week, hmmmm and I don't wanna cheat on her, i rather brake up. Should this be a reason to break up (when colleged stared ;))?

Cheers for reading the post :D any response is welcome :up:
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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4th said:
Maybe im scared of losing her or something, anybody know what i should do to lose this worrying feeling cause its really a pain in the *ss though i don't wanna break up with her, so that wouldnt be the solution
Yes you are scared of losing her and that is why you should have played the field and dated several girls instead of settling for just one. If you had 3-4 women on a rotation basis you wouldn't be worried about losing one of the girls. You settled for her even when you knew you wanted and needed to explore the dating scenes with other girls.

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Second problem, when college starts I'll prolly see her 2 times every week, hmmmm and I don't wanna cheat on her, i rather brake up. Should this be a reason to break up
2 times a week is the ideal relationship for any guy. If you already have a problem with the thought that this is too little then maybe you should break up with her and become free to sarge on your college campus.
 

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hmm ok but what about if im on a date with one of the girls and one other sees me with her making out or something? :up: Anyway I'll repair the damage made so far don't worry mates ;)
 

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hmm ok but what about if im on a date with one of the girls and one other sees me with her making out or something?
Well when you are "dating" it means you are not exclusive and you as what they call in baseball "A FREE AGENT" that is where you are able to court whomever you want until you decide to sign a contract.

The odds of one girl sees you with another is relatively small unless you frequent the same spot again and again. What I usually do to avoid this, is that I don't make up with the girls when I am in a certain public establishment but isolate her somewhere outside in a dark place, car, or someone's house. This way when I am out in public with a girl, one can never tell what sort of a relationship we are in.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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