"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Butterfly problems

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Hmmmm I'll start from the begining from this summer... I started doing some exercises, soon i was able to start sarging went to all the parties in the neiborhood and really started becoming more and more DJ-material... I wanted to make this summer preparation for next schoolyear, cause i start college now, a new start for me... First month I trained "approach", second month was relationship training... So I dated some girls and finally had a GF(kissed closed her the day i met her soooo went really went well, felt like we really did connect)

Now for some reason this butterfly feeling is really bothering me, well actually only when I'm away from her... I'm thinking about her almost all the time :confused:. Maybe im scared of losing her or something, anybody know what i should do to lose this worrying feeling cause its really a pain in the *ss though i don't wanna break up with her, so that wouldnt be the solution :whistle:.

Second problem, when college starts I'll prolly see her 2 times every week, hmmmm and I don't wanna cheat on her, i rather brake up. Should this be a reason to break up (when colleged stared ;))?

Cheers for reading the post :D any response is welcome :up:
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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4th said:
Maybe im scared of losing her or something, anybody know what i should do to lose this worrying feeling cause its really a pain in the *ss though i don't wanna break up with her, so that wouldnt be the solution
Yes you are scared of losing her and that is why you should have played the field and dated several girls instead of settling for just one. If you had 3-4 women on a rotation basis you wouldn't be worried about losing one of the girls. You settled for her even when you knew you wanted and needed to explore the dating scenes with other girls.

4th said:
Second problem, when college starts I'll prolly see her 2 times every week, hmmmm and I don't wanna cheat on her, i rather brake up. Should this be a reason to break up
2 times a week is the ideal relationship for any guy. If you already have a problem with the thought that this is too little then maybe you should break up with her and become free to sarge on your college campus.
 

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hmm ok but what about if im on a date with one of the girls and one other sees me with her making out or something? :up: Anyway I'll repair the damage made so far don't worry mates ;)
 

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hmm ok but what about if im on a date with one of the girls and one other sees me with her making out or something?
Well when you are "dating" it means you are not exclusive and you as what they call in baseball "A FREE AGENT" that is where you are able to court whomever you want until you decide to sign a contract.

The odds of one girl sees you with another is relatively small unless you frequent the same spot again and again. What I usually do to avoid this, is that I don't make up with the girls when I am in a certain public establishment but isolate her somewhere outside in a dark place, car, or someone's house. This way when I am out in public with a girl, one can never tell what sort of a relationship we are in.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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