I've been trying to get with this girl I've known for a while. She just recently broke up with her b/f and has been spending alot of time with me. We've lied in bed and kissed but thats it. Everytime I pull a move she asks that question and I'm at a loss for words, so I give up. She keeps telling me how she wishes I were single and how shed totally fvck me if I were. I wish there was just something I could say to push me over that hump. Any suggestions?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
"But what about your girlfriend?"
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
WC2
Master Don Juan
What is this girl offering you that your girlfriend isn't? Obviously not sex. If you're still hooked on this girl, maybe it's time to rethink your relationship with your girl. I'm not making any moral stance, because I have cheated on my girlfriends as well (and most of the time regretted it). However, I've cheated on my girlfriend for random sex, not to lay in bed with another woman.
I know what you mean. Before I went out with my girlfriend, I would have tons of girls sit on my lap and flirt with me with heavy kino. Now, they still flirt with me, but they always say "You have a girlfriend" when I try to accomplish something more.......exciting
I agree with Leporello. If you get her aroused enough, her instincts will kick in.
I agree with Leporello. If you get her aroused enough, her instincts will kick in.
You guys are right. I figure I'll give it one more try. I'll slow play it and try to arouse her without getting popped the dreaded question. If it still wont work, I think im just gonna walk. Ur right WC2, if I'm gonna cheat it might as well be for random sex, not awkward sex with a girl ive known for 3 years.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
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Lie and tell her you broke up... its what females do all the time...LOL
She invited me over to her place over spring break (next week) to spend the night. And she told me to bring vodka. She said things like how she can't wait to see me and how I'm a great cuddler. What does all this mean? Should I still slow-play it or is it guarenteed sex? What do you guys think I should do?