I've been trying to get with this girl I've known for a while. She just recently broke up with her b/f and has been spending alot of time with me. We've lied in bed and kissed but thats it. Everytime I pull a move she asks that question and I'm at a loss for words, so I give up. She keeps telling me how she wishes I were single and how shed totally fvck me if I were. I wish there was just something I could say to push me over that hump. Any suggestions?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
"But what about your girlfriend?"
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
WC2
Master Don Juan
What is this girl offering you that your girlfriend isn't? Obviously not sex. If you're still hooked on this girl, maybe it's time to rethink your relationship with your girl. I'm not making any moral stance, because I have cheated on my girlfriends as well (and most of the time regretted it). However, I've cheated on my girlfriend for random sex, not to lay in bed with another woman.
I know what you mean. Before I went out with my girlfriend, I would have tons of girls sit on my lap and flirt with me with heavy kino. Now, they still flirt with me, but they always say "You have a girlfriend" when I try to accomplish something more.......exciting
I agree with Leporello. If you get her aroused enough, her instincts will kick in.
I agree with Leporello. If you get her aroused enough, her instincts will kick in.
You guys are right. I figure I'll give it one more try. I'll slow play it and try to arouse her without getting popped the dreaded question. If it still wont work, I think im just gonna walk. Ur right WC2, if I'm gonna cheat it might as well be for random sex, not awkward sex with a girl ive known for 3 years.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
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Lie and tell her you broke up... its what females do all the time...LOL
She invited me over to her place over spring break (next week) to spend the night. And she told me to bring vodka. She said things like how she can't wait to see me and how I'm a great cuddler. What does all this mean? Should I still slow-play it or is it guarenteed sex? What do you guys think I should do?