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Master Don Juan
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The problem with relationships ? Too many people
Old timers (1950) had education about being a good wife, books about taking care of the guy, raising the kids etc... (newspapers would have article, some are on facebook)
People want all the good stuff without thinking about the ''sacrifice'' and the ''challenges'' (or the process)
They put the end before the path.
As things and life became easier... people got ''lazier'' in that aspect.
When I talk with old folks or I see them... they all talk about ''commitment'' ''sacrifice'' ''sense of duty''... They were raised with that and socially pressured into it.
Did they love it? Probably not more than we would.... but they had no choice and understood that...
Exemple: They probably didn't like having 10 kids in the house making non-stop noise... but would they complain? No, because it was ''common'' ''the norm''
Now, people complain when 1 baby makes noise in a waiting room at the hospital and the parents feel sorry and have to ''apologize''
Or why our parents had an attention span of 10 minutes... while my generations is under 30 seconds.
Alot of the ''old'' should be brought back however I believe society took over nature (I remember my parents telling me to finish my plate fully cause we might someday not have food on the table, or Bananas/strawberry not being accessible for 6 months at the groceries due to winter). Simple disease being ''life threatening''
So life became easier, society made nature ''weaker''.... the End started being the central image and the ''path'' became an after thought. We all know the path is 99% of the job.
Me: I am astonished about how many 25-30 years old are getting married after not even 1 year of dating and having kids. I understand the ''biological clock'', they probably had a couple of sexual encounters, they know what they want in a partner.... but they don't even wait to know the persons before jumping in the wedding.
Old timers (1950) had education about being a good wife, books about taking care of the guy, raising the kids etc... (newspapers would have article, some are on facebook)
People want all the good stuff without thinking about the ''sacrifice'' and the ''challenges'' (or the process)
They put the end before the path.
As things and life became easier... people got ''lazier'' in that aspect.
When I talk with old folks or I see them... they all talk about ''commitment'' ''sacrifice'' ''sense of duty''... They were raised with that and socially pressured into it.
Did they love it? Probably not more than we would.... but they had no choice and understood that...
Exemple: They probably didn't like having 10 kids in the house making non-stop noise... but would they complain? No, because it was ''common'' ''the norm''
Now, people complain when 1 baby makes noise in a waiting room at the hospital and the parents feel sorry and have to ''apologize''
Or why our parents had an attention span of 10 minutes... while my generations is under 30 seconds.
Alot of the ''old'' should be brought back however I believe society took over nature (I remember my parents telling me to finish my plate fully cause we might someday not have food on the table, or Bananas/strawberry not being accessible for 6 months at the groceries due to winter). Simple disease being ''life threatening''
So life became easier, society made nature ''weaker''.... the End started being the central image and the ''path'' became an after thought. We all know the path is 99% of the job.
Me: I am astonished about how many 25-30 years old are getting married after not even 1 year of dating and having kids. I understand the ''biological clock'', they probably had a couple of sexual encounters, they know what they want in a partner.... but they don't even wait to know the persons before jumping in the wedding.