Augustus_McCrae
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A woman I know (who was married and now divorced for a while) made a very interesting statement the other day.
She said that when she was a little girl, she dreamed about having a wedding and having children. But.. she never dreamed about being a wife.
She went on to say she knew that in order to have those things (a wedding and children), she would have to marry a man. But the way she stated it clearly communicated that getting a husband was just a means to an end to get what she wanted. She said that as a little girl, she played "wedding" and she played "Mommy", but she never played wife. That wasn't on the radar.
I was amazed she actually stated that.
Whereas many men (Including myself at one time in the past), think like this: I want to marry this woman. I will be her husband and she will be my wife. And I want to be a good husband to her and I expect that she will be a good wife to me.
This difference in perspective potentially helps explain some things:
Why roughly 70% of divorces are initiated by women
The "I'm not haaaapppy" frivorce phenomenon.
Why, over time, in a marriage, the man gives more and the woman gives less.
Thoughts?
-Augustus-
She said that when she was a little girl, she dreamed about having a wedding and having children. But.. she never dreamed about being a wife.
She went on to say she knew that in order to have those things (a wedding and children), she would have to marry a man. But the way she stated it clearly communicated that getting a husband was just a means to an end to get what she wanted. She said that as a little girl, she played "wedding" and she played "Mommy", but she never played wife. That wasn't on the radar.
I was amazed she actually stated that.
Whereas many men (Including myself at one time in the past), think like this: I want to marry this woman. I will be her husband and she will be my wife. And I want to be a good husband to her and I expect that she will be a good wife to me.
This difference in perspective potentially helps explain some things:
Why roughly 70% of divorces are initiated by women
The "I'm not haaaapppy" frivorce phenomenon.
Why, over time, in a marriage, the man gives more and the woman gives less.
Thoughts?
-Augustus-