YawataNoKami
Master Don Juan
- Joined
- May 10, 2013
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You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Wow a nuthugger /labiahugger. She ain't all that my friend , without the jujitsu 101 she is nothing. I guaranteed you after this she will be beat every single time.no, she's not. Just watch. She's never had the size weight advantage, she's fast, tenacious and smart. Now that she's been forced to realize her weakness, she'll fix it. She's got the time, money and incentive to do so.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Her corner should've instructed her to get her down. She took a bunch of damage trying to hang in there with Helm.Yep, people forget she won several of her first fights with a simple takedown-mount-arm bar, just basic jits 101.
Her boring fighting was ok for a while because she's hot, but there is pressure on every fighter to be entertaining. People buy tickets and ppv to see punches and kicks, not boring-ass grappling. Rhonda out-boxed a few weaker opponents in recent events, and must have gotten the obviously incorrect idea that she could spar with a champion boxer. I would blame her trainers for letting her get that impression. Her stand-up sucks. She looks like a little monkey bouncing around the cage. And it's her trainer's job to tell her that. All she had to do was take the fight to the ground, and she would have won easily. But she was too vain, stupid, poorly trained, or a combination of the three.
Last night was the best thing to happen to Dana White in a long time. He was creaming his pants thinking about the rematch as soon as Rousey started bleeding.
She should've dodged a punch and did her thing in getting in close and taking her down.eventually, you will always run into somebody who can strike well enough that you CANT just take them down. you MUST learn the standup game, especially kicking and evading/blocking kicks.
It's like she was just eating punches...The mistake I noticed most of all was that when Holm punched her Rousey didn't do anything of either parry, dodge, block or respond... she just let Holm ramp up the damage to her. It's stuff you learn when you first start training and a really basic mistake.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.