BUSY or BULLSH!T???

[Jake-inator]

let the flaming begin...

 

[Mister Big]

Originally posted by frivolousz21
Im calling bull**** on this...


2 to 3 times a week in a LTR???

ok superman!


seriously.....less than 1 percent of men want to see the girl they really care for or love 2 or 3 times or less a week.

There are really only so many days in the week once you are balanced in your life. A woman, even one that you care about, shouldn't monopolize most of your time. For example, I spend at least one night per week visiting friends and/or family without her (maintaining other relationships is important). One night is for my job (paying for the rest of your life is also important). One or two nights are just for myself. When you get more time under your belt, I think you'll appreciate the time left over.

An occasional weekend together will satisfy her need for continuous and special time together with you. She'll usually pressure to see more of you, but she likely will be much happier with some time apart in my experience. This will encourage her to support her own interests and also be balanced. Any more time per week and I feel the plastic bag being pulled over my head.

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

So, here is an update. I texted him last night to see what he was up to and if he was coming over and guess what he said....take a guess...." I'm busy" were his exact words. I think he is going to get NEXTed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:cheer:

 

[CLOONEY]

Originally posted by MindOverMatter
2.) he's prolly seeing other girls and you're just one girl in his rotation.

LOL. Can be very true, although once again, if he really likes you, he will go out of his way to fit you into his rotation in replacement for one of the other girls.

Or he is genuinely busy. I have a friend who works full-time, studies full-time and HATES when girls get angry cause he is busy. It is the honest truth that he just doesnt get that much time in his life as he is working to make something out of himself.

Sometimes, busy, can be the truth. Most of the time, its just too busy to see you.

Nyways, the way you get angry, he is probably better off without you, no offence, you just need to stop getting clingy and so angry about this. Imagine if it was something serious!

 

[CLOONEY]

Oh, u were together 9 months? As in TOGETHER, or just seeing eachother? Anyways, that is besides the point.

Time to look out for #1, yourself!!! NEXT! Exactly like you said before, out of sight, out of mind! Cut off all contact. This dude is obviously wasting your time! Much in the way I do to girls I am not interested in. The sad part about it is, the more you chase, the further he will be turned off. Although then again, even if you dont chase, and he is not interested anymore, you still have no chance. Only one solution here, sorry its the cold hard reality, but you have to get out and meet other guys!

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

We are seeing each other. I think I have to next him. The thing is, we just got back together after a six month break. He came back to me and we have been talking for 2 months since then.

But, I figured by now he would have came back around. I thought him coming back meant that we would work it out.

I kind of feel I need to earn back his trust and I should be patience, but how long does this take??

 

[Mister Big]

Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
But, I figured by now he would have came back around. I thought him coming back meant that we would work it out.

I kind of feel I need to earn back his trust and I should be patience, but how long does this take??

NO. NO. NO. You should respect yourself and stop worrying about how he feels and what he needs. Why do you need to do anything here, but get focused in other areas of your life: other dates, school, friends, etc.?

If "being patient" means filling up your schedule with other interests, then I condone your behavior. You should count yourself lucky for determining that this guy is not for you. It shouldn't be this hard to understand each other. The fact you are trying so hard on the second time around says alot about the potential between both of you. You have willingly put yourself at a disadvantage in this relationship. You can't begin to feel like yourself in this situation. Don't compromise.

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

It is so hard. That six month period without him was he!!. I was almost over him and he came back. My better judgement told me to keep moving. But, my heart told me to stop and see what he wanted. This just hurts cause when he is with me, it is perfect. I am not worried about him with other girls, cause I know he is not. And, I know alot of girls say this because the are naive, but, I know this for a fact.

He is busy, he is a Manager full time, he is in school, he plays football and this is practice season, he has the Frat, and the Gym. It just hurts that I get to see him once a week AFTER, he hangs out with friends etc. I have only mentioned this once. I don't nag him....I told him I feel like an after thought....

This is going to be soooo hard to drop. I do care about him and I think that if I move on, I might miss something. Maybe it will work out.

Should I wait to see what happens for the summer....His schedule should become alot lighter, should I chill out until there??

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

Okay, so all that being forgotten, what should I say before I bounce?? SHould I lay it on the line and let him know why or just slowly drop off and become unavailable when he calls???!!

 

[Mister Big]

Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
This is going to be soooo hard to drop. I do care about him and I think that if I move on, I might miss something. Maybe it will work out.

Should I wait to see what happens for the summer....His schedule should become alot lighter, should I chill out until there??

I relate to how you feel. Life is hard and relationships can be the hardest aspect sometimes. But relationships shouldn't be challenging all the time. Life is not suppose to be a soap opera and should feel good even when you are not together which is not the case for you. You should get yourself involved in other areas immediately. If he is really interested in you, you should be more attractive to him as a result. Don't let him pressure you into changing in your new mode. I strongly suggest that you don't put this relationship at the top of your list of expectations.

Try being busy yourself as an approach. If this works out and he comes around, great. If he doesn't, you've given yourself options and balanced your life. Right now, you are very unbalanced due to this relationship. It is not healthy. Something has to change.

"Undeclared is unprepared"

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

The funny thing is, I am extremely busy. I work full time and go to school full time. I am very busy. But, I FIND the time to do things and see people that are important to me.

I think anyone should feel this way......If he doesn't, I guess I am not that important. I am an afterthought. This, I don't like, and I will not remain in this situation. The second I am about to bounce, or he feels I am seein someone else, he will come around. We have been there before..

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

Any guy on this thread, answering this bytchs questions, seriously needs fvcking help

There is one thing for a bytch to come on this site and help give advice to AFCs, and give us a woman point of view on things....okay, thats fine. But when a bytch comes on here, and trys to get advice on how to turn her boyfriend into a fvcking AFC, and WEEEEEEEEEEEEEE give her advice, we all need our fvcking faces slapped!

So her boyfriend is being a challenge........soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.

Isnt that what the hell we teach afcs to be, and that is men, and to not always be available for her azz when she calls.

This bytch is posting a thread, on why her man is being a challenge, and inside of her, it is turning her on, and she does not understand why, so she comes here and asks you dumb azzes so you dumb azzes will tell her whats reeally going on, and thus, she eventually GAMES her boyfriend.

The main reason women are attracted to don juans are because of the chase and the challenge. You guys are just her Oprah, helping her trap her fvcking boyfriend. .....I seriously dont understand why the hell you guys dont tell this bytch to go svck a dyck......maybe its because, you guys want some puzzy from her?

This bytch probably resembles a hooker off of Martin Luther King Street, and she NEEEEDDDDDSSSSS TO GET THE FVCK OFF THIS SITE!!!

But of course, if you dumb azz, so called, don juans on this forum, keep telling the bytch advice on how to trap her boyfriend, then I guess she should keep comeing back....

GUYS.......STOP TALKING TO THIS BYTCH!!! OKAY?

 

[Mister Big]

Originally posted by Jus_LikeCandy
The funny thing is, I am extremely busy. I work full time and go to school full time. I am very busy. But, I FIND the time to do things and see people that are important to me.

I think anyone should feel this way......If he doesn't, I guess I am not that important. I am an afterthought. This, I don't like, and I will not remain in this situation. The second I am about to bounce, or he feels I am seein someone else, he will come around. We have been there before..

People are busy because they choose to be. Much of his schedule seems negotiable. He just has you prioritized very low. Why keep going through the same cycle once you recognize it. You have tried this enough times not to revisit the same ground and waste your time. The older you get, the more you will realize this.

We are humans and our free will protects us from these situations of drama. Do the right thing for yourself, NEXT him without apologies, and move on to the next stage of your life. You both want different things from each other. This happens in life all the time.

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

I don't want to game him. Pvssy-eater, stop being such a pvssy.....

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

mISTER BIG?

DO YOU HEAR YOURSELF?

This guy is being a challenge, she LIKES THAT....she is just trying to figure out a way to trap him, what the hell.............are you guys dumb? Why the hell are you talking to this bytch, she is a girl, a girl, a GIRL!!!!!!!!! THIS SITE WILL NOT TURN TO OPRAH!! I WILL SEE TO IT!

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

JUST LIKE CANDY OR SHYT FACE...OR WHATEVER...

I will make damn sure this site remains a mans site, and I will not allow you bytches to take over!!! I am drawing the batttleline.......



YOU WILL BE GONE BYTCH!!!

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

People are busy because they choose to be. Much of his schedule seems negotiable.

I agree 100%, this is why I am thinking of stepping away. It wasn't this bad during our period together before we split.... But, now it is unbearable. I want to see him and I have to wait until all of his other crap is done. Is he testing me...? Maybe he is....

 

[Mister Big]

Originally posted by PVSSY-EATER
mISTER BIG?

DO YOU HEAR YOURSELF?

This guy is being a challenge, she LIKES THAT....she is just trying to figure out a way to trap him, what the hell.............are you guys dumb? Why the hell are you talking to this bytch, she is a girl, a girl, a GIRL!!!!!!!!! THIS SITE WILL NOT TURN TO OPRAH!! I WILL SEE TO IT!

Any relationship that's toxic is no good for anyone: the man or the woman. You should be honest with who you date and never waste months of their and your time fuking playing games. The "game players" are immature and should realize that successful seduction comes from becoming comfortable as a man: that's what this site is about to me not just picking up women. We'll always hold the advantage in dating because women are emotional and react to us if they have interest not the other way around. Why make anyone miserable if there is no or very low interest? That's cruel and what I was responding to here. I am totally done dealing with this issue though.

 

[Jus_LikeCandy]

this site remains a mans site

Chicks can be Don Juans too..

 

[PVSSY-EATER]

Chicks can be Don Juans too,

yeah, thats what Oprah and feminsts teach you, and that is the damn problem today, women are more damn masucline then any damn thing, and it scares the hell out of AFCs, hell, why do you think AFCs get so damn nervous to approach them, haha, hell I would too? She s standing over there like a damn female bodyguard!

That s why I am successful with women and life. Because at times, I feel like I am the only damn person in the damn room, who really does what the hell he wants and not give a damn about whos mad about it, who wants to kick my azz about it, or who does not like it.

My point is now confirmed, men, she said chicks can be don juans too, and that is why she is here. Mister Big, to reply to you, her relationship is not miserable son. Women are attracted to guys that are challenges, becasue in their minds, she can change him. That is why she is still with him mIster big! IF the guy was easy and always there, she would be bored with him,

Overall, just like candy or shyt face is here to learn the don juan shyt, and to be able to further her journey in trapping her boyfirend.
If you guys dont honestly see that, you are blind and need better fvcking reading glasses.