Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

Read more...

Bush

psychgrad

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 16, 2005
Messages
66
Reaction score
0
I have been out with a jewish girl on two dates and yesterday we watched a movie at my dorm and got to third base, But when I got there the field has not been "mowed". In my head all I can think about is the messyness that I would have to see, so I decided to just finger her and make out with her. I kind of felt like she was wondering why I did not F*ck her. Anyway, She just laid there like a log and I guess, expecting me to do all the work. Anyway, What do you guys think about girls that are not shaven or trimmed?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

Read more...

vazeh

Don Juan
Joined
Dec 10, 2005
Messages
59
Reaction score
0
Age
45
Location
Toronto, ON
one time i had this girl in my bed. topless and in short shorts.

and i was going to go down on her but i felt her legs and they was a bit of hair growth and i got turned off and just kept above the equator from that point on...

hair is a turn off for me
 

superchristx

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 13, 2004
Messages
216
Reaction score
4
It's her choice, yeah. But she has a right to make an informed decision, so next time just say something (tactfully) and let her know its a turnoff. Really, this could be affecting her lovelife and limiting her options. You're probably not the first man to turn tail and run at the sight of her pubes, but you have a chance to be the first one to admit it.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

shiningshadow

Don Juan
Joined
Nov 20, 2005
Messages
168
Reaction score
0
Hehe, this is quite the problem. I can understand you gettin' turned off though.
 

00Kevin

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 16, 2003
Messages
1,962
Reaction score
21
Location
toronto
Re: RE:

Originally posted by SeldomSeen
thats their choice...

and it is your choice to leave if they don't shave it
 

DonJuanMonk

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 20, 2005
Messages
826
Reaction score
0
Location
CA
I don't like it that much, I prefer it trimmed or shaven. If they want some oral action they better do it. Oh and cleanliness matters too.
 

piranha45

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 17, 2005
Messages
973
Reaction score
38
HAS to be trimmed or shaven.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

The Juan and only

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 4, 2005
Messages
805
Reaction score
8
Age
38
Location
United Kingdom
Originally posted by piranha45
HAS to be trimmed or shaven.
agreed.

I would try to deal with the issue early on by asking if they think guys should shave their legs/chest etc.....then either she'll ask you what you think about women shaving or you can simply throw it into the conversation ("...so you think men shouldn't shave? I agree..but its definately opposite for women..blah blah")..be casual about it.

Another option would be to make fun of her (C&F style) and start saying that you bet she doesn't shave and how women who don't shave are really dirty...blah blah (in a funny way of course).

The third option is to just tell her what you like.
 

DonMEgaHoss

Don Juan
Joined
Sep 13, 2005
Messages
179
Reaction score
2
Location
NC
Yeah the beared clam is a turn off...even when I see nudes of a hot woman and she has a wookie down there....Blah!

You could stand her on her head and put your head between her legs and look in a mirror to see how you would look with a beard...but thats when the benifits stop.... Eww jut eww..

Yeah I had one girl like that and I felt a curl or two when I was around the bikini line and I thought that was bad so I just fondles some boobies and made out...

I think shaving your chest is a no no... get irritated razor bumps and comes back thicker I think... From my experience. But trim those pubs back some

Seeing some girl go down on you to come back up with pubs in her teeth or her face disappears into the forest..
 

Bonhomme

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 2, 2002
Messages
3,956
Reaction score
16
Location
Land of the Ruins
Whatever floats her boat. Shaven does not necessarily imply clean, and nor does hairy imply dirty.

But I do think some red hair down there (a "firebush") is more of a turn-on than shaven.
 

comote

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jul 12, 2001
Messages
854
Reaction score
2
I don't mind a hairy pu$$y, must be something with the young guys
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

Good_ol_boy

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Oct 24, 2002
Messages
310
Reaction score
2
Location
San Diego East County Mountains
Originally posted by ThunderMaverick
Because you're proably from Europe.
NAH!, it's the young guys. (unless you're realllly into 6 year olds!):D
 

Adone

Master Don Juan
Joined
Dec 12, 2005
Messages
805
Reaction score
2
I don't mind at all about her crotch being hairy (even when it's REALLY hairy). I think it would be a turn-off just if she had red pubes, because I can't really stand it (don't ask me why, because I really don't know). I like it shaved, trimmed or hairy
 

spider_007

Master Don Juan
Joined
Mar 23, 2005
Messages
3,072
Reaction score
16
Location
ontario
Originally posted by psychgrad
But when I got there the field has not been "mowed".
You mean she had a "BEN WALLIS":crackup:


Originally posted by psychgrad
She just laid there like a log and I guess, expecting me to do all the work.
i absolutly HATE THAT
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

Read more...

Top