That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Anecdotally I can confirm that. While my sapiosexual Tinder match was charitably a 6, even adjusting for age, she was crazy horny. For what she lacked in looks she made up for in enthusiasm and skills.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Get to it then.
I am 3 for 4 so far in no date/never met before same night lays. 4th one is coming by again so we will see if 2nd time is the charm.
The part you fail to miss is, you're not the only guy she is video chatting with, the potential for her to meet a guy she likes more than you is very real. I had chick who got flaked on doing 2 of these and she wanted me to do it. I was like EFF No.
I have been off the dating apps for a few months now, but about ready to fire it back up for this reason exactly. No more meeting at bars and charming them back to my place or theirs... A few messages and see if they are DTF.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.