"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Buddy needs a Wingman

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My buddy needs a wingman.

What are some of your best methods/approaches to increase a woman's attraction for your buddy?

That is without seducing her yourself...a way that deflects the seduction onto the other person?

I will start digging through some bible info to find wingman advice, but curious if others are successful at this and what their best methods are?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Talk him up, brag about him, introduce him and let him take over. But of course he ultimately needs to stand on his own two feet.
 

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phatboi408 said:
Dude, your buddy needs game. He will screw it up eventually. Sure you can help him but I agree "he needs to stand on his own two feet."
I agree...you can only help someone swim so much...if they're not moving their arms then that's no good. They'll sink.

I told my friend he has to take this one solo -- he can do it.

However I did find this thread:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=56188

The challenge as a wingman is to shift the attraction, eject at the proper times to let them build a closer connection..not try and swoop in or steal his thunder...

Reading the above thread gave me some insight into some of my past situations where friends either swooped the chick or c0ckblocked me...I would say MOST dudes will try and do one of the two...being a wingman has got to be an art.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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A man has to be able to fly on his own, otherwise once the wingman walks away he'll just crash and burn. It's one thing to help him learn some game but another to be providing him with a crutch.

Buddha_Mind said:
The challenge as a wingman is to shift the attraction, eject at the proper times to let them build a closer connection..not try and swoop in or steal his thunder...

Reading the above thread gave me some insight into some of my past situations where friends either swooped the chick or c0ckblocked me...I would say MOST dudes will try and do one of the two...being a wingman has got to be an art.
Which is why I've always flown solo. I don't know any dudes who can function as a good wingman and not let their own egos get in the way.
 

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i think the best wingmans are the ones that have just enough experience to hold their own and are inclined to learning how to improve.

you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink.
 

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The best wingman is a wingwoman.

A wingman who's better than you has better guns, so he can take targets down quickly, leaving you with little to nothing.

A wingman who's worse than you has worse guns, so he can shoot you, clipping one of your wings. Both of you lose.

A wingman who's on the same level as you MAY help. But someone is gonna lose and the loser is gonna clip your ass.

A wingwoman can amplify attraction to you. Why do you think guys go in clubs with their moms, sisters, aunts, and lady cousins? That's right, cuz they're women, and being seen with a woman is always good. :rockon:

Case closed.
 
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