"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Buddy needs a Wingman

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My buddy needs a wingman.

What are some of your best methods/approaches to increase a woman's attraction for your buddy?

That is without seducing her yourself...a way that deflects the seduction onto the other person?

I will start digging through some bible info to find wingman advice, but curious if others are successful at this and what their best methods are?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Talk him up, brag about him, introduce him and let him take over. But of course he ultimately needs to stand on his own two feet.
 
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Dude, your buddy needs game. He will screw it up eventually. Sure you can help him but I agree "he needs to stand on his own two feet."
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I agree...you can only help someone swim so much...if they're not moving their arms then that's no good. They'll sink.

I told my friend he has to take this one solo -- he can do it.

However I did find this thread:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=56188

The challenge as a wingman is to shift the attraction, eject at the proper times to let them build a closer connection..not try and swoop in or steal his thunder...

Reading the above thread gave me some insight into some of my past situations where friends either swooped the chick or c0ckblocked me...I would say MOST dudes will try and do one of the two...being a wingman has got to be an art.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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A man has to be able to fly on his own, otherwise once the wingman walks away he'll just crash and burn. It's one thing to help him learn some game but another to be providing him with a crutch.

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The challenge as a wingman is to shift the attraction, eject at the proper times to let them build a closer connection..not try and swoop in or steal his thunder...

Reading the above thread gave me some insight into some of my past situations where friends either swooped the chick or c0ckblocked me...I would say MOST dudes will try and do one of the two...being a wingman has got to be an art.
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Which is why I've always flown solo. I don't know any dudes who can function as a good wingman and not let their own egos get in the way.
 
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i think the best wingmans are the ones that have just enough experience to hold their own and are inclined to learning how to improve.

you can lead a horse to water but you cant make it drink.
 
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The best wingman is a wingwoman.

A wingman who's better than you has better guns, so he can take targets down quickly, leaving you with little to nothing.

A wingman who's worse than you has worse guns, so he can shoot you, clipping one of your wings. Both of you lose.

A wingman who's on the same level as you MAY help. But someone is gonna lose and the loser is gonna clip your ass.

A wingwoman can amplify attraction to you. Why do you think guys go in clubs with their moms, sisters, aunts, and lady cousins? That's right, cuz they're women, and being seen with a woman is always good. :rockon:

Case closed.
 
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