My Name is Nobody
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tick37 said:
Alright that makes sense, but you are going off on these lectures and the thread is about broken condoms.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Broken contact..Set back...ugh!
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Alright that makes sense, but you are going off on these lectures and the thread is about broken condoms.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
No not really. Everyone just thinks it is. It never is. More often than not, the person you leave to "go to the other side", moves on eventually..that drives you mad that she know longer fawns all over you, then the cycle begins just the same. You want what you can no longer have.tick37 said:
My Name is Nobody
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Ooops..nervermind.. Broken contact.. broken condoms.. whatever.
You know I've realized something since coming here. I was a pvssy. BIG TIME! I had no idea what a loser I was. I'm a good looking guy, I have a great education, and a great job, but my attitude was all wrong. I thought I needed someone to complete the list. Guess what! I don't need anyone. I'm a little drunk right now, but I'm speaking my mind. I'm sick of the BS! Anyway...what was I saying?SunnyD said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
I truly think you should end all contact. I'm looking out for your best interest because he has no respect for you. He's playing your emotions. Look out for yourself, baby. just take care of YOU.
Whew, I figured out what I was saying...
Whew, I figured out what I was saying...
I think I'm getting the sweetest "revenge" anyway. Not intentionally...but it just happened that I am becoming very good friends with a girl I work with. I did NOT like her because I was sure she was after him the entire time I was with him..but turns out my jealousy was directed in the wrong direction and he was likely the one after her. He used to go to clubs with her and tell me I couldnt come because I'd get jealous if she hit on him infront of me and cause a scene. Give me a break. I'm not like that at all..but I admit I was jealous of whatever it was between them and swore they hooked up. People told me they did, he denied it.
Anyway, not the point. He left our place of employment for another job, lost touch with her I guess along the way. He and I had our falling out, I had to work with her more and actually got to like her, we get along great and hang out now and I know people have told him. He probably thought it'd be a cold day in hell me and her would ever be friends.
I just remember reading here in advice somewhere..that the best revenge is no revenge, and becoming friends with his girl friends..haha.
Anyway, not the point. He left our place of employment for another job, lost touch with her I guess along the way. He and I had our falling out, I had to work with her more and actually got to like her, we get along great and hang out now and I know people have told him. He probably thought it'd be a cold day in hell me and her would ever be friends.
I just remember reading here in advice somewhere..that the best revenge is no revenge, and becoming friends with his girl friends..haha.