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No reply is the obvious way to go. If you reply, then it only potentially opens the floodgates of emotions by you talking to him more and you potentially getting sucked back in.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Broken contact..Set back...ugh!
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
SunnyD said:What the hell does my comment have to do with "being easy?"
LOL.
However he's a lazy hunter and just goes back to where he knows he can get an easy piece.
I'm just reading inbetween the posts, chill out.Yeah, well that is definitely true. Since I've known him, before we were together, after, etc... every single girl he has ever had a "thing" with, has been either an ex, or a girl he knew from high school or college. Come to think of it, I can't ever remember a time he dated, fVcked or messed around with a "new" girl.
I agree..but at the same time, it kind of enforces him to keep trying. And that's exactly what I DONT want...because THEN I might be inclined to get sucked back in. Not that I want to! But if he keeps sending "please talk to me, I miss you..." I'm at a weak state, Ill believe him, Ill talk to him...and all this **** will start again.MacAvoy said:No reply is the obvious way to go. If you reply, then it only potentially opens the floodgates of emotions by you talking to him more and you potentially getting sucked back in.
I can't have that happen.
Got it. But I was just saying that he seems to stay within the same circle of girls he's been with before, and doesn't really have a good game outside of that with "new" girls. Maybe thats why he does it..thats all he can get.ketostix said:LOL.
I'm just reading inbetween the posts, chill out.
MacAvoy
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I might get sucked back in so I better start talking to him. Sounds like someone making excuses to talk to him to me. Standard oneitis behaviour.SunnyD said:I agree..but at the same time, it kind of enforces him to keep trying. And that's exactly what I DONT want...because THEN I might be inclined to get sucked back in. Not that I want to! But if he keeps sending "please talk to me, I miss you..." I'm at a weak state, Ill believe him, Ill talk to him...and all this **** will start again.
I can't have that happen.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
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Why don't you reply "f-ck off" and be done with it. Good lord.SunnyD said:I agree..but at the same time, it kind of enforces him to keep trying. And that's exactly what I DONT want...because THEN I might be inclined to get sucked back in. Not that I want to! But if he keeps sending "please talk to me, I miss you..." I'm at a weak state, Ill believe him, Ill talk to him...and all this **** will start again.
I can't have that happen.
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Ouch.MacAvoy said:Are you really that naive? He's probably still banging her and is starting to get bored and wants some variety again. However he's a lazy hunter and just goes back to where he knows he can get an easy piece.
Now this is the truth Ruth...er Sunny.
Stay away from this guy kiddo.
He wants one thing from you and it damn sure ain't true love or walking away in the sunset together.
My esteemed colleague and best friend on Sosuave Macavoy and I agree that this is the outcome that shall occur should you go back to this man.
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SunnyD said:Trust me, I won't be going back to him. I just wasnt sure how to respond, if at all.
So what's your decision?
No response.My Name is Nobody said:So what's your decision?
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
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haha.. cool, so this girl I just texted who replied "goodbye forever and ever!" really cares about me? Sweet!
Oh I dont know, I already told him that a month ago. If this is her first time saying it to you and she sticks to it, then its not necessarily that she "doesnt care" but is just tired of playing your game and moving on.My Name is Nobody said:haha.. cool, so this girl I just texted who replied "goodbye forever and ever!" really cares about me? Sweet!
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SunnyD said:Oh I dont know, I already told him that a month ago. If this is her first time saying it to you and she sticks to it, then its not necessarily that she "doesnt care" but is just tired of playing your game and moving on.
Haha, yeah I was joking. I'm sure she's done with me. Decided I'd send a text to see if the legs could still be spread.
See? That's all we care about.
Yeah I have no doubt. Haha I wasnt asking if he was wanting me back, I was asking how to respond.My Name is Nobody said:Haha, yeah I was joking. I'm sure she's done with me. Decided I'd send a text to see if the legs could still be spread.
See? That's all we care about.
I also have no doubt he is still sleeping with her and probably just getting bored. Whatever, she can have him.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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SunnyD said:Yeah I have no doubt. Haha I wasnt asking if he was wanting me back, I was asking how to respond.
I also have no doubt he is still sleeping with her and probably just getting bored. Whatever, she can have him.
He could have gotten dumped and he wants a piece of you to make him feel better. Who the hell knows.
Look, SunnyD, if you want a real man, call me. I've already tried to discuss this with you. Stop whining and move the fvck on. You want help, then find something else to keep you entertained. I'm sick of your b1tching. Look me up, and I'll set you straight.
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Well this thread has me wondering. She has mysteriously dissapeared and then I remembered the 2 incidents the thing broke.tick37 said:Look, SunnyD, if you want a real man, call me. I've already tried to discuss this with you. Stop whining and move the fvck on. You want help, then find something else to keep you entertained. I'm sick of your b1tching. Look me up, and I'll set you straight.
Well, at least she's young and cute if she ends up preggo! Who am I kidding, that would suck. And she's the type to drive herself to the clinic.
All I know is "I don't care". The more I don't care the more I get laid. The more a woman cares the more I get what I want. The more I'm indifferent, the more they fight to own me. This goes for Male/Female, Female/Male, Female/Female, or Male/Male. It's the way the human psyche works. Everyone wants what they can't have and once they have it, they don't really want it anymore. The grass is ALWAYS greener on the other side.
I hope to high hell you aren't talking about me.My Name is Nobody said:Well this thread has me wondering. She has mysteriously dissapeared and then I remembered the 2 incidents the thing broke.
Well, at least she's young and cute if she ends up preggo! Who am I kidding, that would suck. And she's the type to drive herself to the clinic.
And who the fvck said I was whining and *****ing?? I asked a question, other people dragged it out and assumed it meant I thought he wanted me back. He doesnt, I dont want him..whatever. I simply needed a response to his text. Relax.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.