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No reply is the obvious way to go. If you reply, then it only potentially opens the floodgates of emotions by you talking to him more and you potentially getting sucked back in.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Broken contact..Set back...ugh!
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
SunnyD said:What the hell does my comment have to do with "being easy?"
LOL.
However he's a lazy hunter and just goes back to where he knows he can get an easy piece.
I'm just reading inbetween the posts, chill out.Yeah, well that is definitely true. Since I've known him, before we were together, after, etc... every single girl he has ever had a "thing" with, has been either an ex, or a girl he knew from high school or college. Come to think of it, I can't ever remember a time he dated, fVcked or messed around with a "new" girl.
I agree..but at the same time, it kind of enforces him to keep trying. And that's exactly what I DONT want...because THEN I might be inclined to get sucked back in. Not that I want to! But if he keeps sending "please talk to me, I miss you..." I'm at a weak state, Ill believe him, Ill talk to him...and all this **** will start again.MacAvoy said:No reply is the obvious way to go. If you reply, then it only potentially opens the floodgates of emotions by you talking to him more and you potentially getting sucked back in.
I can't have that happen.
Got it. But I was just saying that he seems to stay within the same circle of girls he's been with before, and doesn't really have a good game outside of that with "new" girls. Maybe thats why he does it..thats all he can get.ketostix said:LOL.
I'm just reading inbetween the posts, chill out.
MacAvoy
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I might get sucked back in so I better start talking to him. Sounds like someone making excuses to talk to him to me. Standard oneitis behaviour.SunnyD said:I agree..but at the same time, it kind of enforces him to keep trying. And that's exactly what I DONT want...because THEN I might be inclined to get sucked back in. Not that I want to! But if he keeps sending "please talk to me, I miss you..." I'm at a weak state, Ill believe him, Ill talk to him...and all this **** will start again.
I can't have that happen.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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Why don't you reply "f-ck off" and be done with it. Good lord.SunnyD said:I agree..but at the same time, it kind of enforces him to keep trying. And that's exactly what I DONT want...because THEN I might be inclined to get sucked back in. Not that I want to! But if he keeps sending "please talk to me, I miss you..." I'm at a weak state, Ill believe him, Ill talk to him...and all this **** will start again.
I can't have that happen.
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Ouch.MacAvoy said:Are you really that naive? He's probably still banging her and is starting to get bored and wants some variety again. However he's a lazy hunter and just goes back to where he knows he can get an easy piece.
Now this is the truth Ruth...er Sunny.
Stay away from this guy kiddo.
He wants one thing from you and it damn sure ain't true love or walking away in the sunset together.
My esteemed colleague and best friend on Sosuave Macavoy and I agree that this is the outcome that shall occur should you go back to this man.
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SunnyD said:Trust me, I won't be going back to him. I just wasnt sure how to respond, if at all.
So what's your decision?
No response.My Name is Nobody said:So what's your decision?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
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haha.. cool, so this girl I just texted who replied "goodbye forever and ever!" really cares about me? Sweet!
Oh I dont know, I already told him that a month ago. If this is her first time saying it to you and she sticks to it, then its not necessarily that she "doesnt care" but is just tired of playing your game and moving on.My Name is Nobody said:haha.. cool, so this girl I just texted who replied "goodbye forever and ever!" really cares about me? Sweet!
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SunnyD said:Oh I dont know, I already told him that a month ago. If this is her first time saying it to you and she sticks to it, then its not necessarily that she "doesnt care" but is just tired of playing your game and moving on.
Haha, yeah I was joking. I'm sure she's done with me. Decided I'd send a text to see if the legs could still be spread.
See? That's all we care about.
Yeah I have no doubt. Haha I wasnt asking if he was wanting me back, I was asking how to respond.My Name is Nobody said:Haha, yeah I was joking. I'm sure she's done with me. Decided I'd send a text to see if the legs could still be spread.
See? That's all we care about.
I also have no doubt he is still sleeping with her and probably just getting bored. Whatever, she can have him.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
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SunnyD said:Yeah I have no doubt. Haha I wasnt asking if he was wanting me back, I was asking how to respond.
I also have no doubt he is still sleeping with her and probably just getting bored. Whatever, she can have him.
He could have gotten dumped and he wants a piece of you to make him feel better. Who the hell knows.
Look, SunnyD, if you want a real man, call me. I've already tried to discuss this with you. Stop whining and move the fvck on. You want help, then find something else to keep you entertained. I'm sick of your b1tching. Look me up, and I'll set you straight.
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Well this thread has me wondering. She has mysteriously dissapeared and then I remembered the 2 incidents the thing broke.tick37 said:Look, SunnyD, if you want a real man, call me. I've already tried to discuss this with you. Stop whining and move the fvck on. You want help, then find something else to keep you entertained. I'm sick of your b1tching. Look me up, and I'll set you straight.
Well, at least she's young and cute if she ends up preggo! Who am I kidding, that would suck. And she's the type to drive herself to the clinic.
All I know is "I don't care". The more I don't care the more I get laid. The more a woman cares the more I get what I want. The more I'm indifferent, the more they fight to own me. This goes for Male/Female, Female/Male, Female/Female, or Male/Male. It's the way the human psyche works. Everyone wants what they can't have and once they have it, they don't really want it anymore. The grass is ALWAYS greener on the other side.
I hope to high hell you aren't talking about me.My Name is Nobody said:Well this thread has me wondering. She has mysteriously dissapeared and then I remembered the 2 incidents the thing broke.
Well, at least she's young and cute if she ends up preggo! Who am I kidding, that would suck. And she's the type to drive herself to the clinic.
And who the fvck said I was whining and *****ing?? I asked a question, other people dragged it out and assumed it meant I thought he wanted me back. He doesnt, I dont want him..whatever. I simply needed a response to his text. Relax.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.