MacAvoy
Banned
No reply is the obvious way to go. If you reply, then it only potentially opens the floodgates of emotions by you talking to him more and you potentially getting sucked back in.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
SunnyD said:What the hell does my comment have to do with "being easy?"
However he's a lazy hunter and just goes back to where he knows he can get an easy piece.
I'm just reading inbetween the posts, chill out.Yeah, well that is definitely true. Since I've known him, before we were together, after, etc... every single girl he has ever had a "thing" with, has been either an ex, or a girl he knew from high school or college. Come to think of it, I can't ever remember a time he dated, fVcked or messed around with a "new" girl.
I agree..but at the same time, it kind of enforces him to keep trying. And that's exactly what I DONT want...because THEN I might be inclined to get sucked back in. Not that I want to! But if he keeps sending "please talk to me, I miss you..." I'm at a weak state, Ill believe him, Ill talk to him...and all this **** will start again.MacAvoy said:No reply is the obvious way to go. If you reply, then it only potentially opens the floodgates of emotions by you talking to him more and you potentially getting sucked back in.
Got it. But I was just saying that he seems to stay within the same circle of girls he's been with before, and doesn't really have a good game outside of that with "new" girls. Maybe thats why he does it..thats all he can get.ketostix said:LOL.
I'm just reading inbetween the posts, chill out.
I might get sucked back in so I better start talking to him. Sounds like someone making excuses to talk to him to me. Standard oneitis behaviour.SunnyD said:I agree..but at the same time, it kind of enforces him to keep trying. And that's exactly what I DONT want...because THEN I might be inclined to get sucked back in. Not that I want to! But if he keeps sending "please talk to me, I miss you..." I'm at a weak state, Ill believe him, Ill talk to him...and all this **** will start again.
I can't have that happen.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Why don't you reply "f-ck off" and be done with it. Good lord.SunnyD said:I agree..but at the same time, it kind of enforces him to keep trying. And that's exactly what I DONT want...because THEN I might be inclined to get sucked back in. Not that I want to! But if he keeps sending "please talk to me, I miss you..." I'm at a weak state, Ill believe him, Ill talk to him...and all this **** will start again.
I can't have that happen.
Ouch.MacAvoy said:Are you really that naive? He's probably still banging her and is starting to get bored and wants some variety again. However he's a lazy hunter and just goes back to where he knows he can get an easy piece.
SunnyD said:Trust me, I won't be going back to him. I just wasnt sure how to respond, if at all.
No response.My Name is Nobody said:So what's your decision?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Oh I dont know, I already told him that a month ago. If this is her first time saying it to you and she sticks to it, then its not necessarily that she "doesnt care" but is just tired of playing your game and moving on.My Name is Nobody said:haha.. cool, so this girl I just texted who replied "goodbye forever and ever!" really cares about me? Sweet!
SunnyD said:Oh I dont know, I already told him that a month ago. If this is her first time saying it to you and she sticks to it, then its not necessarily that she "doesnt care" but is just tired of playing your game and moving on.
Yeah I have no doubt. Haha I wasnt asking if he was wanting me back, I was asking how to respond.My Name is Nobody said:Haha, yeah I was joking. I'm sure she's done with me. Decided I'd send a text to see if the legs could still be spread.
See? That's all we care about.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
SunnyD said:Yeah I have no doubt. Haha I wasnt asking if he was wanting me back, I was asking how to respond.
I also have no doubt he is still sleeping with her and probably just getting bored. Whatever, she can have him.
Well this thread has me wondering. She has mysteriously dissapeared and then I remembered the 2 incidents the thing broke.tick37 said:Look, SunnyD, if you want a real man, call me. I've already tried to discuss this with you. Stop whining and move the fvck on. You want help, then find something else to keep you entertained. I'm sick of your b1tching. Look me up, and I'll set you straight.
I hope to high hell you aren't talking about me.My Name is Nobody said:Well this thread has me wondering. She has mysteriously dissapeared and then I remembered the 2 incidents the thing broke.
Well, at least she's young and cute if she ends up preggo! Who am I kidding, that would suck. And she's the type to drive herself to the clinic.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.