"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
broke up with my girl cause i wanted to bang other chicks
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Masculinity
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Yes :cuss:handle said:
Iceberg
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Sounds right to me. Most people just stay miserable in their boring relationships. You were brave enough to push for a change.
Lucifero
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No. You are a MAN who knows what he wants and isnt afraid to admit it or go after it. Don't let these pussy betas tell you any different. Good ****ing job.handle said:
I guess I just wanted to see what freedom was like for a while. She told me to call her if I change my mind.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Solomon
Master Don Juan
handle said:
The grass isn't always greener on the other side, trust me been there done that
Igetit!
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handle said:
I think it may just be excitement that you're after.
Call it what you will......
the "thrill" of the chase
the "honeymoon" phrase
"excitement" of the unknown....
whatever,I think that that's probably what you're gunning for.
You said that you slept with two girls since the breakup of your relationship,and you don't feel any better. Of course not man,there was never anything wrong to begin with.
You were in a relationship. Well after a while,you start to become accustom to the person you're with,start to grow comfortable with each other.
The "newness" of being with a new person wears off REGUARDLESS of how "hot" or "attractive" she is.
Believe it or not,a "7" who you don't know can stir up more interest in you than a "10" who you've been in a year long relationship with simply because the 7 is UNKNOWN.
You thought it was about the sex. Well you got the sex you were after,so now what? Even you admit that you're no better off now than you were when you were with your ex.
About your girlfriend,you said.....
So you broke up with a girl who's.....handle said:
super attractive
GREAT in bed
treats you amazing
...and you left her to go find what,another hot girl who's great in bed and treats you well?
So basically,you went out in search of what you ALREADY had. If a "10" is it,the HOLY GRAIL of hot women and you have one,then logically,the search should end,right? The problem is that a lot of the times,it's not the girl or the "10",but THE SEARCH itself that drives us.
We ALL have that in us,it's just that after reaching a certain level of maturity,you finally realize it.
I don't think that one woman will ever be enough,we just have to decide within OURSELVES that she is enough.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
As crazy as it sounds have you considered an open relationship with your smokin hot ex? I'm sure she probably wants to experience some other dyk too, think you could handle that?
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Broke up with my girlfriend because I wanted to sample some other chicks.
Then I couldn't get laid to save my life lol! Maybe some sort of bad karma. I had no idea what I was doing at the time though.
Plus I knew I wasn't going to stay with that particular girl anyway.
Masculinity
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What the heck did you do to bang two different girl in TWO days?!handle said:
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
I knew who'd been keeping an eye on me during the relationship... I just need to let it be known that I'm single now. Trust me, the result is that I feel like **** though.Robyn923b said:What the heck did you do to bang two different girl in TWO days?!
Kailex
Master Don Juan
That's the ONLY thing that is wrong.
He doesn't know it yet, but the fact that he walked away from his last relationship, empowered him as a man... as long as he doesn't walk back.
And this is why a lot of men would rather cheat on an LTR than break it up. You want that false sense of security... "If it doesn't work out with these other chicks, I have my safety net, my safety lay"
Handle realizes that's gone and that's the only thing that has him conflicted at this point.
Handle, did you TALK to somebody in recent times that made you believe that you needed to FIND someone "better"? Was it the forums?
I've seen this before and it seems to be a subconscious idea planted in there by some external force of nature. And this is why I'm a bit bothered by the OP... he states all these great reasons to stay with his girlfriend, yet, he didn't... so the fundamental question is "WHY?"
Just for variety in sex?
Or did your relationship become the victim of another unfulfilling life of routine?
Many questions abound within this analysis... but don't worry about the safety net. I've seen it corrode a man's mind before... disposing of a safety net eventually leads man to ask "What if?"
In this case, handle's now asking "What if my ex-girlfriend is the best thing that I could ever go out with?" Was it worth it in the end?
I say "yes", but he might say differently.
And yes, the "grass isn't always greener on the other side", but sometimes you find that on the other side of the fence the grass looks like a freshly cut beauty that resembles the green of a golf course.
European-DJ
Master Don Juan
I Did the exact same thing.handle said:
It was hard in the start, since i did not get a HB9 again for some time, so i thought i had throwen away a PERFECT woman.
She actually bought me gifts, was always there when i wanted her to, she was ULTRA faithfull... just perfect, after 1½ yr Relationsship, i was like .. "MAN i am 18 yrs old now! I must throw away this girl! I need to try new and other girls"..
I do not know if i regret.. but i do not fell like a shvthead
Lucifero
Senior Don Juan
Umm...Good Job?handle said:
Just keep banging them, you'll feel better eventually :yes:
Paintballguy
Master Don Juan
I broke up with my ex for basically the same reasons. We ended up getting back together only to breakup again like a year later. There are always more women out there.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.