"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
broke up with cheating g/f
- Thread starter ronniel
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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
MikeOck
Don Juan
The average woman has a cleverly crafted online illusion of a glorious life that would make even the most successful of her girlfriends jealous. The key word is illusion, and anything that interferes with the false image she has created needs to be mitigated to the best of her ability as soon as possible.ronniel said:
What she is doing is all about her. Your best interest lies in ignoring her online activities completely. Hide her Fakebook page and ask any of your mutual friends to not discuss her with you in any capacity whatsoever. Focus on moving on with your life, luckily you discovered her true nature before you got too involved.
Aristippus
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Now she claims that SHE broke up with me.
*** So she cheated on you, then she badmouths you, and then she lies to everyone. Sounds to me like a real winner.
Many times in the past appeared to be sad through her posts
***Why should you care about her feelings? It's obvious that she doesn't care about yours. This is why you should completely erase her from your life, including deleting her and any traces of her from Facebook and any chat or instant messenger programs on your computer.
Quit using "experimenting" as a facade and as an excuse to keep tabs on a low-quality woman who cheated on you and doesn't really care about you or your feelings. Breaking contact is something you do because you don't need to waste your time on worthless women and also, it's a great way to allow you to move on and to protect yourself from the harmful effects of keeping in contact or knowing about someone you are no longer in a relationship with.
Ex's are ex's and in general, it is healthy to avoid contact or knowing about the life, doings, and whereabouts of an ex. Don't do it halfway. If you break up, go all-out and never look back.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Lord Hypnos
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somehow i get the feeling that blocking her fb might be the breaking point, where she really ends up going off the rails, resulting in more slanderous comments to your mutual friends. i hope i'm wrong. but these days, for fb validation hors, being blocked on fb is equivalent to being cast out to a leper colony as was custom 1000 years agoronniel said:
scrouds
Master Don Juan
w h o r e.
Saying anything else is playing the fool. Radio silence is a good second place.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
I know that she will lie herself out of this. Women are even capable to convince themselves about the lies they say.
I begin to spin plates. I had sex yesterday with my date and in a week i will travel 60 miles to meet a hot thirtysomething divorced mother. She can use some company
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
CostaDeSol
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ronniel said:
What did she do with those male friends, did she drink, hang out with them alone?
sounds like my ex-gf but i never thought she was a slut.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.