"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Broke up on Saturday..messaged me this morning

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I broke up with her on Saturday. This morning she emailed me saying "Hey I was talking to my mom last night and she asked me if we would still be able to purchase the pictures we liked for Linda (her aunt). Please let me know either way" (side note - i am a photographer and recently sold some work at a craft show, they came by and saw some photos they liked) Is this her just trying to get my attention? What do you think? How does one respond?

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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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ezduzit said:
I broke up with her on Saturday. This morning she emailed me saying "Hey I was talking to my mom last night and she asked me if we would still be able to purchase the pictures we liked for Linda (her aunt). Please let me know either way" (side note - i am a photographer and recently sold some work at a craft show, they came by and saw some photos they liked) Is this her just trying to get my attention? What do you think? How does one respond?

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Conduct this business in a very professional manner. Don't leet emotions get the best of you. Plus you are making money here, take it as payment for your hard work. That's it. Then don't interact with the girl unless you have to for business or if he comes back asking you to take her back. At that point you set the frame and play it your way.
 
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Yo so i kept it business like and she is now acting like she doesn't know what my website is ! Ha.
 
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What is funnier is that I know she already accessed the site going by the statistics option it gives you being a member!
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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What is funnier is that I know she already accessed the site going by the statistics option it gives you being a member!
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Just give her the number and remain civil.

She obviously has feelings for you, even if you no longer do for her, so just remain professional, take her business on board and earn yourself some money.
 
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