"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Don't all shout at once....

NC for 8 months she rang twice , picked up second time. came up with a lame excuse to ring me, long and short of it is she is moving to a new place and said she was single . I was cool and said good luck with that and she asked about me.
I said I was seeing someone, could tell she was pissed.... kept asking me questions and then saying , " don't answer, I don't want to know"

said I had to go , result is I am now smiling and I know she is pissed.

so maybe NC is not always the answer all the time......
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Depends on how often you replay that conversation over in your head.

Eight months is a long time, I doubt you're agonizing over her anymore (if that's why you went NC).

No harm done.

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that's the point, thats why you go NC for you and you only...

once your through the cr*p and have moved on in your head it's ok.

Although a little part of me was happy she was pissed and I felt in control.

he who cares least and all that stuff.....
 
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Consider this a small mental reward for sticking with the plan for eight months... Not that you wish misery upon her, but she volunteered to tell her situation willingly to you. And maybe she'll learn not to take the next guy for granted (hahaha, hold your breath on that one...)

Great report!

The Gambler
 
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I don't know what it is about all my exes but I swear every single one has gotten fat. They vanish for just a few years, then suddenly pop up out of no where again twice their former size.

I like to believe they turn to cakes and pies to fill the void I left.

I can't say I don't enjoy it.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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like you guys said, keep that hamster wheel spinning......
 
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mrRuckus said:
I don't know what it is about all my exes but I swear every single one has gotten fat. They vanish for just a few years, then suddenly pop up out of no where again twice their former size.

I like to believe they turn to cakes and pies to fill the void I left.

I can't say I don't enjoy it.
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They probably got into a relationship, let themselves slide, and it ended. Then they dial up all their exes for a pick me up boost or a bang.
 
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that's the point it's never about you,

you have to remember that, they have just been dumped or broken up with their boyfriends and want validation, they are feeling down and want a pick me up.

They want to know you still care or haven't moved on, are still pining for them and want them back, then they go away happy.

They didn't give a sh*t about you when you broke up 8 months ago, why would they give a sh*t about you now.....open your eyes, I did..
 
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PeakIV said:
that's the point it's never about you,

you have to remember that, they have just been dumped or broken up with their boyfriends and want validation, they are feeling down and want a pick me up.

They want to know you still care or haven't moved on, are still pining for them and want them back, then they go away happy.

They didn't give a sh*t about you when you broke up 8 months ago, why would they give a sh*t about you now.....open your eyes, I did..
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AMEN, Brother!
 
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mrRuckus said:
I don't know what it is about all my exes but I swear every single one has gotten fat. They vanish for just a few years, then suddenly pop up out of no where again twice their former size.

I like to believe they turn to cakes and pies to fill the void I left.

I can't say I don't enjoy it.
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I hear you. Happened to me a little while back. I tell her that I now date women half my age, and she tried to shame me.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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MatureDJ said:
I hear you. Happened to me a little while back. I tell her that I now date women half my age, and she tried to shame me.
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Ha, what other option does she have???

For all their legal and SMP advantages, we ultimately hold the cards...as long as we remember it. Damn it's good to me (male).
 
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The point of no contact is to move on. No other purpose. If you use it otherwise, you teeter the thin line of alpha/beta. No contact is a means to forget, not regret. The more 'hope' you add to the equation, the more depression you will feel in the end.
 
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