"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Broaching the subject of where the relationship is going

Whydomyeyeshurt

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Hello men hope you're well. I'm currently seeing a woman who is a rad chick, and we have been having a great time together, but I am a ways off from being ready for a long-term monogamous relationship so non-exclusivity is where I'm living right now. She's made little comments here and there that imply she is trying to set things up for a relationship which is somewhat expected, but I'm wondering if I should broach the subject or wait for her to approach it officially.

And what I mean by broaching the subject is by asking her where her mind is at and reaffirming that I'm not ready for anything exclusive. My gut says to enjoy the moment with her and let her bring it up if that's what she wants and then have the conversation from there.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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BeExcellent

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Advice from the old lady:

Let her bring it up then you reaffirm where you’re at. Now. Understand that if a relationship is what she wants and you are not looking for that no matter how cool she is?

She’s got a shelf life.

Some other dude is going to think she’s rad too…and eventually she will pair off with a guy she likes who also is good pursuing a relationship with her.

Plates break, especially if she is a desirable girl. She’s not going to be strung along casual for very long if she wants a BF. Six months, tops usually…
 

BackInTheGame78

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Advice from the old lady:

Let her bring it up then you reaffirm where you’re at. Now. Understand that if a relationship is what she wants and you are not looking for that no matter how cool she is?

She’s got a shelf life.

Some other dude is going to think she’s rad too…and eventually she will pair off with a guy she likes who also is good pursuing a relationship with her.

Plates break, especially if she is a desirable girl. She’s not going to be strung along casual for very long if she wants a BF. Six months, tops usually…
Yup...for me it usually happens around the 3-4 month period. Like clockwork.
 
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