Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Haha, I've only been out drinking in Walton once, it was so savage... hang on, we have a spoons?! Are you talking about the Slug & Lettuce?Originally posted by CobaltBlue
Wow another bus ride away... I went to the jdwether spoons in Walton the otherday. Looks like a great place to expand by influence :woo:
Oceana has a special night for under 18s or something.
Originally posted by bob246
Wow this is a small world. Have any of you heard of Hounslow? Thats where im from. I actually was at Kingston college last year.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Originally posted by CobaltBlue
Long live underage drinking!!!
Guildford is waaay cool. Went to the university open day thing with my college. Sneaked off into town. The place was packed that day with more pu$$y per square inch than most places.
A Leuisure centre with ice skating, a cinema, and a shopping centre - brilliant for a dj.
C'mon need some more peeps here, or do you think its worthy of a new thread???
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
damn you, crap, crap, crap. We have to meet up some time. I also should have invited you to my party in March, but wev kinda got out of touch.Originally posted by Cloud-uk
Yeah man, Surrey Frat is where it's at! Count me in.
Oh, and if anyone knows guildford I'm having a private party in the Three Tuns tonight, if you know it. I can't guarentee I can get you in (we've invited 150 people, and the bar can only hold about 100 before people start dieing) but I'll try my hardest- P.S. it's a private so underage drinking is actively encouraged.
lol, maybeOriginally posted by CobaltBlue
Anyone intrested in a big "mackmeeting" in London Town???
Yeah, I would be. Tell you what, I'm 18 in 2 weeks, so around then?Originally posted by CobaltBlue
Anyone intrested in a big "mackmeeting" in London Town???
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.