"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Bring multiple plates to same party?

Fumbduck

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Is it smart to invite multiple plates to the same party?

Girl 1: Vibing hardcore since we met through bodylanguage, kino and non-verbal flirting. Met a few days ago, have not hooked up with. (I don't hook up on a first meeting...its my style)

Girl 2: See her only in the summertime, isn't super flirty; but called and wants to "see me". Have not hooked up with her because a friend was into her. Recently my friend and i had a falling out so it's fair game now...

I know preselection is powerful, everyone wants what everyone else wants. I want them both lol

So...how would you handle this situation?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Alex DeLarge

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I've brought one of my plates to a party once, where two of them were actually there. It was a nightmare of ****blocking lol. If you have awesome DJ skills maybe it'll work out for you?

One of the girls was actually pissed at me and just left because another one kissed me in front of her. So much for that :/
 

PDubb75

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Come on man... don't be a fumbduck. It's a bad idea. A really bad idea.

So much can happen that can ruin your chance with a specific girl, or both of them. Just as Alex just said...

A few weeks ago, 2 of my FBs met up with my friends and I at a bar. They didn't know about eachother. Both were trying to get my attention all night, and as soon as I gave one of them attention, I could feel the other girls' eyes glued to me. So I would try to act like "friends" and then the person who I was giving my attention to thought I was being "weird". Every time I would talk to one of them, the convo started with a "who is she?", "why is she touching you like that?", etc.

It was the most exhausting night of my life, which ended with both of them being pissed at me, and one of them going home crying. Brutal night... I've done everything in my power to make sure it doesn't happen again.
 

Fumbduck

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fair enough! lol

I won't voluntarily make that mistake. Girls are one thing but girls who you have a history with are another story.
 

thinkinblue613

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It's like shooting yourself in not one foot, but two.

Not a good idea.. I've done that before and I either lost one girl or both in the same night.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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