"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Breaking the Ice
- Thread starter HandyAndy
- Start date
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
You have to ISOLATE first. Then talk about: her hair, her clothes, her shoes, her purse, her job, her family, her vacations, her pets, etc, etc. Get the picture?HandyAndy said:
No girl ever came home from a date complaining all they did was talk about themselves.
ISOLATE HER FIRST?? You don't know anything about this girl - her name, her phone number, hell you haven't even said HI to her yet - and you're saying Isolate her first??
I've approached quite a few women in my day and isolation was never what I was going for on the initial approach.
ARrocket
Master Don Juan
Plus, I think he's referring to girls in CLASS....a high school to be precise. Isolation just isn't gonna happen....young_gun said:
Make sure you make your presence known in class....answer questions, joke around with the kids around you....if you have a friend that sits somewhere near her, spend some time over there....and that way you can easily introduce yourself.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Edit: DJ11, I feel more comfortable when MY friends are around, because then if I make an ass of myself, my buddy can keep the conversation flowing and the both of us dont stand around with nothing to say
"Hey there, I saw you when I walked in and wanted to introduce myself. I'm xxxx"
Direct, to the point, and simple.
How you say it is more important than what you say.
Demon Lord
Don Juan
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
and yes, it is hard. If you go have a look at the MM, you will see, it's like higher risk opener/easier transition and lower risk opener/harder transition. transition is when you go from the opener to a normal convo. that's what you need.
so more direct the approach, the easier to go on to a normal chat.
but if you are going indirect, it's pretty hard to get her to open because that depends upon how much you attract her actually.
Al: So do we have to go through this checklist?
her: What checklist?
Al: You know, this eye colour and food thing. What's your favorite food?
her: Oh, I don't really know, probably everything with meat.
Al: Thank you sooo much, finally someone who doesn't like pizza best, I must have had 10 girls with pizza this evening! I don't really know either.
her: laughing
The ice was broken then and we had a niceconvo where she did most of the talking. So I think humour and agreement is good.
(Maybe the convo doesn't sound very good, had to translate it so it might have a different effect now
)"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.