"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

Read more...

breaking it off with a FAT girl..

blackwolf

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 10, 2010
Messages
146
Reaction score
2
so i kept ignoring her calls and texts but tonight she txt me saying "you know if ur not interested in talking to me you should be honest and tell me"

so i text back saying "sorry i been busy but yes i will be honest that we cant be seeing each other anymore. everything was going too fast and i had only just come out of a relationship so it was silly of me to think i could move on so fast. sorry for the delay."

how was that ?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

Read more...

Tesl

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Feb 21, 2010
Messages
281
Reaction score
16
blackwolf said:
so i kept ignoring her calls and texts but tonight she txt me saying "you know if ur not interested in talking to me you should be honest and tell me"

so i text back saying "sorry i been busy but yes i will be honest that we cant be seeing each other anymore. everything was going too fast and i had only just come out of a relationship so it was silly of me to think i could move on so fast. sorry for the delay."

how was that ?
Good enough, I think. Blaming it on being "too fast" is a classic, that's what I'd say too.

Of course, the easiest way would have been not to get involved with a fat girl at all, I think ;)
 

joe henny

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 23, 2010
Messages
325
Reaction score
10
Why did youu mess with her in the first place?
 

blackwolf

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 10, 2010
Messages
146
Reaction score
2
i met her online.. she pretty much begged to meet and i never knew how big she was until i saw her in person.. heh.
 

kingsam

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 12, 2010
Messages
989
Reaction score
13
Location
England, baby!
blackwolf said:
i met her online.. she pretty much begged to meet and i never knew how big she was until i saw her in person.. heh.
did u fu.ck the fattie?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

Read more...

joe henny

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Aug 23, 2010
Messages
325
Reaction score
10
blackwolf said:
i met her online.. she pretty much begged to meet and i never knew how big she was until i saw her in person.. heh.
Bro thats clled the myspace angle i hate when that happens lmao
 

badboyjmm

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Jan 25, 2010
Messages
420
Reaction score
44
Location
Canada
^__^ said:
Tell her you ran out of cake.

Relationship over.

Hahahaha :crackup:
 

blackwolf

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 10, 2010
Messages
146
Reaction score
2
well i think she got the hint finally cause she never replied back. phew!
 

Maxtro

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 6, 2004
Messages
3,198
Reaction score
31
Location
Kalifornicatia
Why would you even ignore her calls and texts in the first place? Show some decency and don't make people your not interested in chase you. It's good that you finally told her but there was no point in playing games.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

Bluntmaster

Banned
Joined
Mar 23, 2010
Messages
606
Reaction score
19
Maxtro said:
Why would you even ignore her calls and texts in the first place? Show some decency and don't make people your not interested in chase you. It's good that you finally told her but there was no point in playing games.

Screw that. I just stop replying. Why should I give a reason? They never do.
 

blackwolf

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 10, 2010
Messages
146
Reaction score
2
Maxtro said:
Why would you even ignore her calls and texts in the first place? Show some decency and don't make people your not interested in chase you. It's good that you finally told her but there was no point in playing games.
i wasn't playing games.. i was actually really busy and couldnt be fuked with her crap. if i answered the phone she would of been blabbing away. better i waited when i was free with a clear mind to msg her.
 

Maxtro

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 6, 2004
Messages
3,198
Reaction score
31
Location
Kalifornicatia
Bluntmaster said:
Screw that. I just stop replying. Why should I give a reason? They never do.
You know what their reason is that they just stop replying? "Because the guys do it."

So it's both sides playing the immature game.

Try being the better person.
blackwolf said:
i wasn't playing games.. i was actually really busy and couldnt be fuked with her crap. if i answered the phone she would of been blabbing away. better i waited when i was free with a clear mind to msg her.
All it would have taken was one text, "Sorry, it's not going to work." No need for BS excuses.

If both sides did this, dating would be less frustrating.

BTW the last girl I dated, just decided to stop replying to me after we had our third date. I ran into her at school a few days ago and I wanted to punch her in the face. But I just said "Hey Nicole" and kept walking.
 

blackwolf

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 10, 2010
Messages
146
Reaction score
2
Maxtro said:
All it would have taken was one text, "Sorry, it's not going to work." No need for BS excuses.
you see that's why i waited so i had time to write a decent long detailed message instead of a one liner that would of just made her reply again asking why and so on. at least i got it all out and she understood. "Sorry, it's not going to work." is a stupid short reply.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

Maxtro

Master Don Juan
Joined
Apr 6, 2004
Messages
3,198
Reaction score
31
Location
Kalifornicatia
blackwolf said:
you see that's why i waited so i had time to write a decent long detailed message instead of a one liner that would of just made her reply again asking why and so on. at least i got it all out and she understood. "Sorry, it's not going to work." is a stupid short reply.
If she replied to that message, you wouldn't have to reply back to her, because she already knows what you think. I'm betting that she wouldn't send another message into dead air.

How many times did she try to contact you before you replied?

Would you rather have a girl tell you that she isn't interested or just have her ignore you?

For me, if I don't get a reply or she doesn't return my calls, I start making excuses for her why she won't or can't do it. But if I knew she isn't interested, I might ask why. If she doesn't reply, I'll give up and just accept the truth.
 

blackwolf

Don Juan
Joined
Jun 10, 2010
Messages
146
Reaction score
2
umm, should i delete her off facebook and msn? i feel weird being on msn and shes just sitting there and none of us talking.
 

Bluntmaster

Banned
Joined
Mar 23, 2010
Messages
606
Reaction score
19
blackwolf said:
umm, should i delete her off facebook and msn? i feel weird being on msn and shes just sitting there and none of us talking.

Yes. Block and delete her. Why would you keep a girl on your MSN that you want nothing to do with?
 
Top