"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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breaking it off with a FAT girl..

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so i kept ignoring her calls and texts but tonight she txt me saying "you know if ur not interested in talking to me you should be honest and tell me"

so i text back saying "sorry i been busy but yes i will be honest that we cant be seeing each other anymore. everything was going too fast and i had only just come out of a relationship so it was silly of me to think i could move on so fast. sorry for the delay."

how was that ?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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blackwolf said:
so i kept ignoring her calls and texts but tonight she txt me saying "you know if ur not interested in talking to me you should be honest and tell me"

so i text back saying "sorry i been busy but yes i will be honest that we cant be seeing each other anymore. everything was going too fast and i had only just come out of a relationship so it was silly of me to think i could move on so fast. sorry for the delay."

how was that ?
Good enough, I think. Blaming it on being "too fast" is a classic, that's what I'd say too.

Of course, the easiest way would have been not to get involved with a fat girl at all, I think ;)
 

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Why did youu mess with her in the first place?
 

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i met her online.. she pretty much begged to meet and i never knew how big she was until i saw her in person.. heh.
 

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blackwolf said:
i met her online.. she pretty much begged to meet and i never knew how big she was until i saw her in person.. heh.
did u fu.ck the fattie?
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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blackwolf said:
i met her online.. she pretty much begged to meet and i never knew how big she was until i saw her in person.. heh.
Bro thats clled the myspace angle i hate when that happens lmao
 

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Tell her you ran out of cake.

Relationship over.

Hahahaha :crackup:
 

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well i think she got the hint finally cause she never replied back. phew!
 

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Why would you even ignore her calls and texts in the first place? Show some decency and don't make people your not interested in chase you. It's good that you finally told her but there was no point in playing games.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Maxtro said:
Why would you even ignore her calls and texts in the first place? Show some decency and don't make people your not interested in chase you. It's good that you finally told her but there was no point in playing games.

Screw that. I just stop replying. Why should I give a reason? They never do.
 

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Maxtro said:
Why would you even ignore her calls and texts in the first place? Show some decency and don't make people your not interested in chase you. It's good that you finally told her but there was no point in playing games.
i wasn't playing games.. i was actually really busy and couldnt be fuked with her crap. if i answered the phone she would of been blabbing away. better i waited when i was free with a clear mind to msg her.
 

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Bluntmaster said:
Screw that. I just stop replying. Why should I give a reason? They never do.
You know what their reason is that they just stop replying? "Because the guys do it."

So it's both sides playing the immature game.

Try being the better person.
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i wasn't playing games.. i was actually really busy and couldnt be fuked with her crap. if i answered the phone she would of been blabbing away. better i waited when i was free with a clear mind to msg her.
All it would have taken was one text, "Sorry, it's not going to work." No need for BS excuses.

If both sides did this, dating would be less frustrating.

BTW the last girl I dated, just decided to stop replying to me after we had our third date. I ran into her at school a few days ago and I wanted to punch her in the face. But I just said "Hey Nicole" and kept walking.
 

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Maxtro said:
All it would have taken was one text, "Sorry, it's not going to work." No need for BS excuses.
you see that's why i waited so i had time to write a decent long detailed message instead of a one liner that would of just made her reply again asking why and so on. at least i got it all out and she understood. "Sorry, it's not going to work." is a stupid short reply.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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blackwolf said:
you see that's why i waited so i had time to write a decent long detailed message instead of a one liner that would of just made her reply again asking why and so on. at least i got it all out and she understood. "Sorry, it's not going to work." is a stupid short reply.
If she replied to that message, you wouldn't have to reply back to her, because she already knows what you think. I'm betting that she wouldn't send another message into dead air.

How many times did she try to contact you before you replied?

Would you rather have a girl tell you that she isn't interested or just have her ignore you?

For me, if I don't get a reply or she doesn't return my calls, I start making excuses for her why she won't or can't do it. But if I knew she isn't interested, I might ask why. If she doesn't reply, I'll give up and just accept the truth.
 

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umm, should i delete her off facebook and msn? i feel weird being on msn and shes just sitting there and none of us talking.
 

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blackwolf said:
umm, should i delete her off facebook and msn? i feel weird being on msn and shes just sitting there and none of us talking.

Yes. Block and delete her. Why would you keep a girl on your MSN that you want nothing to do with?
 
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