"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Breaking into new social circles

TheLoner

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Has anyone ever broken into new social circles?

The social circles that I see currently existing are composed
solely from people who knew each other from high school. People do not have newer
social circles than that.

has anyone ever noticed this?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Mike32ct

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TheLoner said:
Has anyone ever broken into new social circles?

Generally, you can't except through dating, F-ing, or being best friends with an existing member of that circle.


The social circles that I see currently existing are composed
solely from people who knew each other from high school. People do not have newer
social circles than that.

has anyone ever noticed this?
Yes, absolutely.
 

plate's_empty

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TheLoner said:
Has anyone ever broken into new social circles?

The social circles that I see currently existing are composed
solely from people who knew each other from high school. People do not have newer
social circles than that.

has anyone ever noticed this?
The easiest way to break into a new social circle is to send them all a picture of your Dong.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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TillTheEndOfTime

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In general, social circles are cemented by high school. Some are cemented in college/university. But in my experience high school determines 90% of your social circle.
 

TheLoner

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TillTheEndOfTime said:
In general, social circles are cemented by high school. Some are cemented in college/university. But in my experience high school determines 90% of your social circle.
I hate how high school determines 90% of your social circle. What if you moved around alot during high school, what happens to those people?
 

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TheLoner said:
I hate how high school determines 90% of your social circle. What if you moved around alot during high school, what happens to those people?
Not for me, aside from a few guys I play poker with I can hardly even remember the names of the people I went to high school with.

As for breaking in, it's mostly about becoming friends with someone in that circle who thinks you should be brought in. If they're someone that the others respect then if you're cool with them you're in like Flint. Sometimes it's as simple as getting invited to one of their parties, then you just gotta make a good first impression with the rest.
 

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TillTheEndOfTime said:
In general, social circles are cemented by high school. Some are cemented in college/university. But in my experience high school determines 90% of your social circle.
this, even in college the circles are cemented by this
 
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