"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Breaking into new social circles

TheLoner

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Has anyone ever broken into new social circles?

The social circles that I see currently existing are composed
solely from people who knew each other from high school. People do not have newer
social circles than that.

has anyone ever noticed this?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Mike32ct

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TheLoner said:
Has anyone ever broken into new social circles?

Generally, you can't except through dating, F-ing, or being best friends with an existing member of that circle.


The social circles that I see currently existing are composed
solely from people who knew each other from high school. People do not have newer
social circles than that.

has anyone ever noticed this?
Yes, absolutely.
 

plate's_empty

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TheLoner said:
Has anyone ever broken into new social circles?

The social circles that I see currently existing are composed
solely from people who knew each other from high school. People do not have newer
social circles than that.

has anyone ever noticed this?
The easiest way to break into a new social circle is to send them all a picture of your Dong.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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TillTheEndOfTime

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In general, social circles are cemented by high school. Some are cemented in college/university. But in my experience high school determines 90% of your social circle.
 

TheLoner

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TillTheEndOfTime said:
In general, social circles are cemented by high school. Some are cemented in college/university. But in my experience high school determines 90% of your social circle.
I hate how high school determines 90% of your social circle. What if you moved around alot during high school, what happens to those people?
 

Zerro

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TheLoner said:
I hate how high school determines 90% of your social circle. What if you moved around alot during high school, what happens to those people?
Not for me, aside from a few guys I play poker with I can hardly even remember the names of the people I went to high school with.

As for breaking in, it's mostly about becoming friends with someone in that circle who thinks you should be brought in. If they're someone that the others respect then if you're cool with them you're in like Flint. Sometimes it's as simple as getting invited to one of their parties, then you just gotta make a good first impression with the rest.
 

SirFratserlot

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TillTheEndOfTime said:
In general, social circles are cemented by high school. Some are cemented in college/university. But in my experience high school determines 90% of your social circle.
this, even in college the circles are cemented by this
 
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