"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Breaking Dates

Dash Riprock

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For Uber-DJ's only:

I've been dating a super hot Latina babe (34 yr. old) for about 5 weeks now. I call her or text her maybe once/week to set something up and then plan a fun date.

Lot's of ****y/funny and overt-confidence has her basically eating out of my hand. I'm dating around but don't talk about it much; she has been pumping me for info re: how many other girls I'm seeing to which I reply (chidingly), "none of your bee's wax."

I nailed her last week (wow) and she stayed over.

I don't want things to get too comfortable so I'm thinking about cancelling our date for Friday night because "something came up" as to keep the tension line taught. Plus, I just feel like my game is off right now. Kind of like Brett Favre on Monday Night; an All-Pro who had a bad game.

Any DJ thoughts much appreciated

Dash in Boulder, CO
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Damian

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Just plain-old cancel on her. If you truly have her eating out of your hand, then there shouldn't be any problems with being direct. Just tell her you can't go because of *insert excuse here*, but best to do it the day before. Don't want to have girl totally stood up.

-Damian
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Originally posted by Dash Riprock

I don't want things to get too comfortable so I'm thinking about cancelling our date for Friday night because "something came up" as to keep the tension line taught.
That sounds like something a woman would do. If you didn't want things to get too comfortable why did you set up the date in the first place?
 

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i dont know who old you are but from my experience the older women dont like to play games...the've been in the game and perfer directness, (most of them now)
so if you have to tell her up front to prevent furture awkwardness do it now and early
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why?

What are you, scared? Once a week is fine.
 

Dash Riprock

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All good advice--thanks. I'm keeping the date. I can do some other things to keep the line tight.

It's VERY early in the ball game (5 weeks) so the standard has to be set NOW. Just like training a dog, if you mess up when they're a puppy they don't behave--or they run away.

I'm getting to the point of where she is letting her guard down a bit. Even though we had sex, I could tell she held back in the sack.

This girl is a 9+ so I'm sure she has dudes kissing her a$$ all the time. I haven't. As a matter of fact, I've taken C/F to the point of even being "jerkish" -- and she responded very favorably.

She is from Europe and says 99% of all US guys are wussies. LOL.
 
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