"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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GloriouslyInsane

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I came to a conclusion that most of our past afc behavior was developed not only by social conditioning but by a phenomenon that slowly but steadily alters ourself until we're totally wussified.

This kind of revelations come to me while totally drunk,this one too.After screwing any chance whatsoever with this girl (again due to alcohol) one night,i was like, "WHAT THE FVCK IM UPSET ABOUT?" , this was one of those totally random encounters that i did not pursue,like i was one night out and this small thing led to a "romantic" relationship,then it hit me:

WHY WE GAVE TOO MUCH VALUE TO WOMEN
Let's say you meet a girl out of nowhere and may develop some kind of relationship with her,you see this as a GIFT that you don't want to lose (because supposedly it was an act of divine luck),you don't want to screw this up,so you're on the defense,and slowly..slowly undermine yourself into failing.

I explain better with image analogies so here's one:Lets say we have 2 men,A and B,one day A was given a great gift,an beautiful painting,B has a painting too,but one he drew himself,they're both beautiful.Where's the difference though? A will cherish and protect and admire his painting,even if he does not like it,cause he can't replace it,while B will say "SH!T MAN I CAN DRAW A BETTER PAINTING" and shred it without thinking twice.

I know this has been said a thousand times but it is quite difficult to coprehend,PURSUE YOUR LUCK,CREATE YOUR DESTINY.You now know how to "draw paintings" why do you still cherish the one you have now so much? Is it a true work of art?

So,next time you're fighting to save a dying relationship just say to yourself "SH!T MAN, I CAN MEET A BETTER GIRL" and bail.I felt so relieved after doing so,as long as you settle for mediocrity you can't claim the better life you seek.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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It's break, BREAK!
Open a dictionary, man.
 

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haha true,well english is my third language so don't hold it against me :D
 

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Oh, right, I was just thinking you were another illiterate bum. Your english is pretty spiffy for a 3rd language.
I've always loved languages, myself. Want to really expand when I'm older and sitting on my laurels.
Russian, Portugese, maybe even Italian and Japanese. But I definitaly want to expand and learn languages. Invaluable.
That and get good at swimming, I live in the freaking Mediterranean and I'm rubbish.

So, yeah, off-topic but I don't care. :D

Oh, alright. "Good post".
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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