"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Break the cycle!

GloriouslyInsane

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I came to a conclusion that most of our past afc behavior was developed not only by social conditioning but by a phenomenon that slowly but steadily alters ourself until we're totally wussified.

This kind of revelations come to me while totally drunk,this one too.After screwing any chance whatsoever with this girl (again due to alcohol) one night,i was like, "WHAT THE FVCK IM UPSET ABOUT?" , this was one of those totally random encounters that i did not pursue,like i was one night out and this small thing led to a "romantic" relationship,then it hit me:

WHY WE GAVE TOO MUCH VALUE TO WOMEN
Let's say you meet a girl out of nowhere and may develop some kind of relationship with her,you see this as a GIFT that you don't want to lose (because supposedly it was an act of divine luck),you don't want to screw this up,so you're on the defense,and slowly..slowly undermine yourself into failing.

I explain better with image analogies so here's one:Lets say we have 2 men,A and B,one day A was given a great gift,an beautiful painting,B has a painting too,but one he drew himself,they're both beautiful.Where's the difference though? A will cherish and protect and admire his painting,even if he does not like it,cause he can't replace it,while B will say "SH!T MAN I CAN DRAW A BETTER PAINTING" and shred it without thinking twice.

I know this has been said a thousand times but it is quite difficult to coprehend,PURSUE YOUR LUCK,CREATE YOUR DESTINY.You now know how to "draw paintings" why do you still cherish the one you have now so much? Is it a true work of art?

So,next time you're fighting to save a dying relationship just say to yourself "SH!T MAN, I CAN MEET A BETTER GIRL" and bail.I felt so relieved after doing so,as long as you settle for mediocrity you can't claim the better life you seek.
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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It's break, BREAK!
Open a dictionary, man.
 

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haha true,well english is my third language so don't hold it against me :D
 

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Oh, right, I was just thinking you were another illiterate bum. Your english is pretty spiffy for a 3rd language.
I've always loved languages, myself. Want to really expand when I'm older and sitting on my laurels.
Russian, Portugese, maybe even Italian and Japanese. But I definitaly want to expand and learn languages. Invaluable.
That and get good at swimming, I live in the freaking Mediterranean and I'm rubbish.

So, yeah, off-topic but I don't care. :D

Oh, alright. "Good post".
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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