Exacly. You can not un-sour milk.Or "is there any way i can make it work with bpd ex"
never go back to the drink
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Exacly. You can not un-sour milk.Or "is there any way i can make it work with bpd ex"
never go back to the drink
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Honestly this was a big one for me. Before hand i do have to admit that looks wise, i felt lucky to have her. But once you get in serious shape its crazy, even your face improves. Now i am capable of doing better i dont need to mess with that.Serious props, @Infern0 for having the self-respect to nope the cr@p out of that email.
An uplifting post like this reminds me how well it is for us DJs to maintain strict NC from the toxic ex. Better yet, like you said, get ripped and shred that old depressed shell for a new and much improved you.![]()
Its been 9 months NC almost a year since i seen her.
I have been training seriously in that time and got great results, plus heaps if self improvement and growth, feeling good boyos.
other day i ran into her best friend (hb8) who couldnt stop complimenting me and squeezed my arms lol (this one is the hot slutty girl who my ex worships) its funny because this girl used to pretty much snob me when i was out of shape depressed dude with the bpd, but now she was all "omg you look so different, good for you, wow" and smiling and hard eye contact.
Anyway I knew at that point the clock was ticking.
Anyway opened my emails and there it was, the email from the ex.
Opened it and just saw wall of text starting with:
"i know you hate me and want nothing to do with me but"
DELETE
No thanks.
Tldr: they ALWAYS come back
Honestly this was a big one for me. Before hand i do have to admit that looks wise, i felt lucky to have her. But once you get in serious shape its crazy, even your face improves. Now i am capable of doing better i dont need to mess with that.
The mental aspect is very important too obviously. But the gym really helps with endorphins etc so its win win.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Weldone man props to you.. don't let that hoe back in, because these toxic chicks, will pull you back into there nest and the mind fuking will start again..
I had a similar situation where a toxic ex came back.. on her hands and knees.. i banged her for a while, then just moved on..
Her life fell to chit after me.. she put on weight, got unhealthy.. Every relationship after me, just fizzled out.. can't believe i fell for that hoe in the first place..
Anynow hitting the gym is your ultimate weapon.. I have always trained hard, but since my recent break up, been hitting the gym 5 days a week..
Arms are looking big, ripped chest.. biitches just notice you a whole lot more.. lots of respect from other dudes..
As my ex ages further, and starts looking like a sack of fuking spuds.. i will get ripped to fuk, and smash younger hotter girls...
Weldone inferno.. you showed strength!
Its been 9 months NC almost a year since i seen her.
I have been training seriously in that time and got great results, plus heaps if self improvement and growth, feeling good boyos.
other day i ran into her best friend (hb8) who couldnt stop complimenting me and squeezed my arms lol (this one is the hot slutty girl who my ex worships) its funny because this girl used to pretty much snob me when i was out of shape depressed dude with the bpd, but now she was all "omg you look so different, good for you, wow" and smiling and hard eye contact.
Anyway I knew at that point the clock was ticking.
Anyway opened my emails and there it was, the email from the ex.
Opened it and just saw wall of text starting with:
"i know you hate me and want nothing to do with me but"
DELETE
No thanks.
Tldr: they ALWAYS come back